[ SECRET POST #3057 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3057 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Polandball]


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03.
[The X-Files]


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04.
[Nick Lea/Krycek]


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05.
[Plague Inc Evolved]


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06.
(Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.)


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07.
[Grimm]


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08.
[Discworld]


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09.
[Magi the labrynth of magic]


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10.
[The Clangers]












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Comments

Re: Reassuring friends from their anxieties (when their anxieties are justified)

[dethtoll]

Just reassure her that no matter what happens you'll be there to support her and that you're rooting for her to pass (give no assurances as to whether you think she'll actually pass, just tell her that you're hoping she passes.) Then stick by that so that if she does by slim chance pass, she's got somebody to celebrate with and if she fails, she's got someone to lean on.

It's also important to not pass judgment if she fails -- don't be like "well maybe if you hadn't drank too much, etc." because even though you'd be absolutely correct, it's not really the right time to bring that up, because I guarantee you she's probably well aware it's her own fault but isn't ready to face that yet. Just tell her "I have faith that you can do better next time" and don't let her quit.

Re: Reassuring friends from their anxieties (when their anxieties are justified)

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Thanks. Yeah, I don't want to approach the alcohol thing because that's not going to help her to hear. But after the first semester, she vowed to drink less, but two weeks into the second semester she was carrying on as before - at that point, I was tempted to say something as her friend, but she's an adult, it's her choice. Now I've just get these awkward moments with her where she's like, "Maybe I shouldn't have drank so much this semester" and I sort of agree in the most noncommittal way possible. It's too late now anyway, I guess.

I've just tried to focus on how it's awesome how hard she's worked, and tell her if she needs someone to rant to, I'm there. But I don't want to sound condescending either, especially before we know for certain if she failed or not.

Re: Reassuring friends from their anxieties (when their anxieties are justified)

[dethtoll]

I think at this point you may want to keep an eye on her and keep her from drinking again. You'd be doing her a disservice if you just let her keep going as she was going, especially since she's already backslid from her own resolution to drink less (which honestly you should have nipped in the bud.) And if she fails, she may want to crawl into a bottle. Don't let her.