[ SECRET POST #3065 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3065 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Witcher 3]


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03.
[Shakin Stevens]


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04.
[The Godfather II]


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05.
[A Redtail's Dream]


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[David Lynch & David Cronenberg]


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07.
[Laurell K. Hamilton]


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[Big Bang Theory]


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09.
(Richard Dawkins)


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Comments

Re: OP

[intrigueing]

Well, you may want to just try going on some dates for a while. I feel you on the dating issue. If it's not fun in and of itself for you, then it's a shitty and tedious dance and you waste a lot of time. It's not just you -- almost everyone feels this way about dating prior to finding someone they actually want to date. But it does give you a chance to meet a lot of people in a context where further exploration of your relationship is not only not frowned up, it's the whole point. So it might be a good idea to try it out. It's a pretty good way to get to know several different people in a context not complicated by existing friendships or work.

You could also join a club or volunteer for something you are really interested in and feel strongly about. That's a really good way to make new friends who you share interests and values with, and, therefore, find people who are more likely to be the kind of person you would be compatible in a relationship with (also not complicated by work or long-term existing friend circles.)

As for making friends as an adult, I learned the long and hard way that the #1 rule of making friends is taking the initiative and firmly convincing yourself that "getting embarrassed by rejection" is nowhere near as shitty as "wishing you had gotten to know that person better." No matter how excruciating the former seems and no matter how harmless the latter seems, you gotta convince your brain to think the opposite.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Problem is, the things I'm interested and feel strongly about are stories. Books, movies, TV, and the rest of the world? Not so much. I'm not an activist, I'm not taken up by any particular cause. I just...exist.

I am however thinking about trying to connect with a nanowrimo group this year. I've never done that. Granted, I have a weird as fuck schedule that might make that hard, but we'll see.

Re: OP

[intrigueing]

Nanowrimo sounds great. I don't know where you live, but towns and cities that have some kind of arts culture usually have writing and reading and story groups that meet and/or give talks, etc.

And if you know some subject that is interesting to you even if you're not deeply invested in the cause or activist about it, you could join a group for it anyway and see if your interest perks higher once you get into it. And also, if you want to think about it in a context you *are* invested in: stories are drawn from real life situations, after all.

Re: OP

[othellia]

Echoing what intrigueing said.

And then outside of nano, there are usually writing groups that exist year round depending on the city. And even within that, there are sometime different types (e.g. ones that focus on sharing work/critique vs ones that focus on making time to sit down and write in a shared space/blocked out time).