[ SECRET POST #3065 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3065 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Witcher 3]


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03.
[Shakin Stevens]


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[The Godfather II]


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[A Redtail's Dream]


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[David Lynch & David Cronenberg]


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[Laurell K. Hamilton]


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[Big Bang Theory]


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(Richard Dawkins)


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Comments

Re: Apologies and nonapologies

[(Anonymous)]

Well, personally I see the phrase "I'm sorry" in this context as expressing regret, so I think "I'm sorry I offended you" is usually kind of bullshit. But "I'm sorry I said X that way" (if you did in fact phrase things poorly, like make a callous joke or something) or "I don't like that I made you feel bad" works. IMO there's a difference between letting someone know you're not thrilled and gloating about upsetting them, and saying "I'm sorry" as if you regret what you said, when, as you say, it's your very existence that offends them.

Re: Apologies and nonapologies

[(Anonymous)]

You think it's bullshit to regret having caused someone discomfort even though you feel like you were being reasonable? I've been offended and uncomfortable before, and it doesn't feel good. Empathy allows me to be sorry for playing a role in someone else having those emotions.

Re: Apologies and nonapologies

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt, I feel like "I'm sorry I offended you" can be a flip non-apology, OR it can be a genuine expression of regret that offense was caused.

If it's a controversial topic we're discussing, I may still hold to my opinion, or whatever it was that I'm apologizing for, but I don't want to cause other people pain/distress. However, as some people seem to presume "I'm offended" automatically equals "your opinion is offensive", nothing less than a full retreat will do.

And I do find it funny/sad how some people parse out apologies to find the incorrect word, or not quite properly phrased statement, so that they can declare the apology null and void.