[ SECRET POST #3077 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3077 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Lackadaisy Cats]


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03.
(Gorillaz)


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04.
(Tripping over you)


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05.
[Stitchers]


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06.
[Dragon Age]


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07.
[The Mighty Boosh]


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08.
[LOVE LIVE!]


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09.
[Brooklyn 99]


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10.
[Mad Max Fury Road]


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11.
[Maggie Stiefvater]


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12.
[Emily Alice Ovenden]


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13.
[When Marnie Was There/Omoide no Marnie]


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14.
(Rick and Morty)


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15.
[Suppression]


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16.
[Wall-e]


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17.
[Ancillary Justice & Ancillary Sword]







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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think that's true for everyone in the world, and to the extent that it is true, it's an incredibly easy instinct to retrain.

Also, it's really pretty easy to tell when someone is just ranting compared to when they want advice.

Also, most of the time, they won't even mind if you do give them advice, as long as the advice is prefaced by you listening to them and offering some commiseration, and don't just, like, immediately roll up your sleeves and dive in to fixing their life

[philstar22]

This so much. Especially that last bit. What annoys me is the people who just want to tell me how to fix things without expressing sympathy. Or who want to give advice even when I specifically say I'm not looking for advice and just want to rant (aka my dad who I have to tell this to because he always gives advice).

[(Anonymous)]

Right?

It's kind of weird to talk about, because it seems so obvious and natural, but I also know there was a time when I didn't really get it at all, and that just seems bizarre to me now (also, i didn't really get it until i was probably already like... 22, which just makes me feel ashamed and dumb).

People are silly, basically.

[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes--especially if the remedy seems obvious and the ranter seems oblivious to it--it's hard to express sympathy because one doesn't feel much of it.

[(Anonymous)]

Frankly if the thing you're complaining about is fixable and you seem to prefer the complaining rather than the fixing, good luck getting sympathy for your self pity.

[diet_poison]

this sooooo much. I'm often looking for emotional support, because I guarantee you I have already considered all the options you're giving me as advice. It may be that I'm not ready to try something or it won't work for other reasons, but if I'm talking to you (general you) about why I feel bad it's because I want emotional support, full stop.

[(Anonymous)]

"Also, it's really pretty easy to tell when someone is just ranting compared to when they want advice."

Really?

How?

[diet_poison]

I wouldn't agree that it's always easy, but you can always ask. "Hey, do you want some advice, or just a listening ear? I'm cool either way!"