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fandomsecrets2015-06-09 06:46 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #3079 ⌋
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Young teens and sexuality?
(Anonymous) 2015-06-10 02:43 am (UTC)(link)A little back story:
OK so there's a wide age gap between my older sister and me with our youngest sister. My older sister is 32, I'm 29, and the youngest is 13. My older sister has two daughters ages 11 and 8. My 13yo sister and my 11yo niece are really close, basically best friends. My younger sister is a fan of My Little Pony, and I'm not sure if my niece is.
My older sister has fallen on some hard times so she and her family moved in with my parents. She tells me she's found drawings of ponies kissing (some ponies have my younger sister's name and my niece's name), and my younger sister writing that she's "horny" in her sketch book.
My older sister really isn't into nerd culture, and I'm not super involved (F!S is probably the most active I get in fandom), but I generally know what goes on in the internet world, and I know that there was a time where My Little Pony was notorious for the Brony fanboys. I don't know how active the MLP fandom is now, and if it's something my older sister should be concerned about.
I mean, I do understand this is right about the time where girls around my younger sister's age are learning more about sexuality and wanting to experiment with the sexual side of life, but I think my older sister just doesn't want my younger sister to exploit or pervert my niece.
I'm not a parent so I don't know what is the appropriate way to tackle this. I remember being 13 and wanting to fall in love with the Backstreet Boys and Freddie Prinze Jr. so IDK? I remember my friends and I were perverted girls who wanted to see these famous guys naked and talking about boning them, but we were way too scared to act upon it with boys or with each other, except some of us making out with boys we dated. I mean, yes, there were other girls who were more sexually experienced but I think my younger sister is more on the levels of me and my friends, mostly talking about it and wanting to look it up to discover more about sex. But again, I don't know if my older sister is worried that my younger sister is going to rope my niece along in all of that. And I also don't know if what my older sister wants to do (telling them to stop because it's inappropriate) is the right way to teach girls to deal with sex.
Re: Young teens and sexuality?
They need to be comfortable expressing their sexuality and exploring it with the knowledge that it is a natural thing to do.
The best way to go about this would be to offer some recommendations for sex positive books for teens that your sister might be able to offer her own children to educate them about sex and sexuality. I mean, by god, if they're already 11 and they don't have a good grasp of the basics, it's well past time that happens. Kids should know about their own body parts by the time they're old enough to point to them, and they should understand how sex works by the time they're old enough to wonder.