[ SECRET POST #3085 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3085 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

03. http://i.imgur.com/Bz34xON.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

I think you're being way too sensitive. It's just a book series, people can whine about it if they want.

[(Anonymous)]

And other people can get fed up with their whining.

[(Anonymous)]

OP seems to be taking it waaaay too personally, though. It's just venting, you don't have to respond if you're tired of it.

Or straight up tell them to fuck off if it bugs you so much, I guess.

[(Anonymous)]

but it's kinda impolite to keep doing so to one specific person, especially if that person likes the book

[(Anonymous)]

If nothing else, OP's friend seems not to realize that the rant is getting very, very old.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, sure. But if you know your friend really likes X fandom and you make a point of repeatedly bringing up how much X fandom sucks to their face, you're a bad friend.

[mimi-sardinia.livejournal.com]

And you're being way too callous. If the friend already knows the OP likes the series, then they are being rude constantly criticising it to them.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I agree. I think there's a difference between admitting you don't like something and going into why all the time.

[(Anonymous)]

It may not have to do with you specifically but just about how ASOIAF is just about everywhere now especially after the television series got huge. Like even people who hate the tv series will still rave about the books.

And when *everyone* is talking about something it can get annoying (this is how I feel about Star Wars) so maybe your friend is just venting, I would maybe talk to them about it?

Like a mutual agreement where you both don't talk about it sounds like it would be for the best, so maybe gently suggest to them that you don't want to hear the rants anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

This is like the reverse of people who are annoyed by that one friend who always recommends Game of Thrones in glowing terms.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree, anon. Bashing something you know your friend likes is just shitty.

My guess is that this person has never had the reverse situatino happen to them, so they don't know how bad it feels.

[silverr]

I agree, anon. Bashing something you know your friend likes is just shitty.

My guess is that this person has never had the reverse situation happen to them, so they don't know how bad it feels?

[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes you just hate something so much it's hard to realize you're not curbing yourself and just keep going on and on. (Or love something so much.) I would repeat what someone said above, talk to them gently about it.

You could say, maybe, "Listen, I know you don't like this, and that's fine, I won't talk to you about it. But please don't bash it. I know it's not Shakespeare, but I really enjoy this. Let's talk about other things when we're together."

And then you hug and dance around to crappy music, amiright? :-D

Maybe you need to let them know it bothers you.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, they should know that it bothers you already, but sometimes people can be a little (or a lot) self-absorbed. If they do it a lot, they may need to be told a few times (it can be hard to break the complaining habit). Maybe give them an analogy - "How would you feel if I said that about Orange Is the New Black/Star Wars/MCU/Breaking Bad/Mad Men/Outlander/something else they really like?"

Re: Maybe you need to let them know it bothers you.

[elaminator]

"How would you feel if I said that about Orange Is the New Black/Star Wars/MCU/Breaking Bad/Mad Men/Outlander/something else they really like?"

This is a good suggestion. And I mean...if it was just once, okay, but since OP's friend is doing this over and over again I'd add that. "You don't have to like this thing, that's alright, but how would you feel if I repeatedly complained about -insert thing they like here-?"

Re: Maybe you need to let them know it bothers you.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Yeah, for whatever reason, sometimes people just don't think to try to put themselves in another's place unless someone brings it to their attention.

[elaminator]

Ooo, I've known people like that. Once had a friend who wouldn't read or watch LOTR but hated it. I never ever bugged them to read or watch it, and I got into the habit of not ever mentioning it, but they would still manage to bring it up to tell me how stupid it looked.

It is perfectly okay to not like something, but if you know your friend is into something you aren't, it's probably best to not discuss that thing on a regular basis. Maybe tell them you don't want to discuss it and if they don't get the hint try changing topics. Hopefully they'll understand where you're coming from.

[(Anonymous)]

And sometimes they never grow out of it. My father has begun to study piano (at 70+!), and I've always wanted to get back to it. I spend about 12 weeks a year out east visiting my folks, so I decided to start taking lessons from his teacher when I'm there, and practicing on my own the rest of the time. His teacher is amenable, so I started last month.

She's a good teacher, but she can hardly let a lesson go by without mentioning the fact that she thinks everything written after maybe 1880 is unmusical dreck, and it's getting pretty old.

[elaminator]

Uh, wow. I can see why you chose her (it's convenient, and if she's a good teacher and is doing her job then at least you're getting something out of it), but it also sounds frustrating. Have you told her you disagree and asked her to focus on the lesson instead? You are paying her, right? Unless she's volunteering to do this for free, it seems like she would have to respect your opinions; if you ask her to stop, she should.

Not that I don't understand wanting to avoid conflict, and after a certain point people should be able to move on and talk about something else anyway, but some just have difficulty letting go.

[philstar22]

This, OP, is exactly how I feel about certain Moffat haters.

[(Anonymous)]

Grumpy and Lil' Bub!!!!!
Who cares about ASOIAF...

(have you seen Grumpy on the throne?)

[(Anonymous)]

You have a right to feel kinda pissed off about this, OP. Your friend is being a bit of an ass. Also, your secret design is really adorbs.

[(Anonymous)]

A lot of people I've met in nerddom are like this. On the flip side, you can't go anywhere without hearing about this series so I can kinda see why your friend is fed up with it in general.