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⌈ Secret Post #3088 ⌋

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Re: Family Issues

[(Anonymous)]

I had a similar thing happen to me at work with two different sets of coworkers. Both sets of them came to tell me what happened, and both told differing stories. I knew all of them very well, and I absolutely believe that they were all telling me the truth as they perceived it. The problem is that they were obviously not communicating properly with each other.

They would discuss a topic, but they would each hear different things from each other, and this is where their biases or their insecurities or whatever were putting an unintended spin on the conversations.

Without being in the room with all of them during those conversations, I could not mediate that for them. What was needed was an impartial observer or facilitator to help them start communicating properly.

All of the above is just to say that whenever you have a communication breakdown that is that significant, it's not just a matter of semantics or misunderstandings - there are other issues there that are clouding their perceptions and their judgments of what's being said and how it's being said.

I don't know that there's much you can do - they've got to figure out their issues and work them out between them, either themselves or with help from an external impartial third-party.

If they're comfortable talking with you, they're probably going to vent to some degree no matter what. I'd just refrain from taking sides in any way, and I'd probably keep my responses non-committal. If they don't feel like they're getting sympathy or validation from you, they may end up going elsewhere to vent.

And, for your sake, I do hope they eventually work it out on their own, because walking that tightrope between them can be exhausting.