[ SECRET POST #3093 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3093 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Hitchhiker's Guide to The Galaxy]


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[Brendon Urie/Panic at the Disco]


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[Steven Universe]


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[Bones]


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[Ghostbusters, Bill Murray]


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[Game of Thrones]













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Comments

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[(Anonymous)]

It's okay to feel hurt, anon. A few things, though...

* Friends you keep in touch with sporadically with long gaps of silence (even comfortable silence!) aren't always the friends you invite to weddings. Weddings can be expensive, with a limited guest list that's already packed full of relatives and people they do talk to/see regularly. Sometimes people fall through the cracks.

* Planning a wedding, dealing with a new marriage and having a baby are all huge timesucks, which leaves less time to keep in touch with everybody, never mind friends you only talk to once in a while. Again, it's easy to fall through the cracks.

If you want to get in touch and you know her address, send her a card congratulating her on her marriage and baby. Make sure it includes ZERO passive aggressive references about how you weren't invited or how your friendship must not mean a lot if she didn't tell you these things. Express happiness, say how you'd love to catch up and give your contact info. Then the ball's in her court.

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed with the above poster. I'd also note that perhaps your friend had a small wedding, or actually eloped, which is my preferred modus operandi - who wants the hassle and drama and expense of a big wedding?

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[caerbannog]

+3 was my thought. Sounds like they had a lot going on and they could have gone for a small wedding.

Your hurt feelings are still logical though. Hang in there and wait on a reply? I was rather miffed that an old friend never responded to a msg by me. Turns out they forgot to reply and by the time they remembered they were too embarrassed to. I was mollified that an apology was literally the first thing out of her mouth when we ran into each other. Might be the same with yours?

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[(Anonymous)]

agreed with both of the above commenters. weddings can definitely be expensive, and sometimes the guest list has to be limited (my husband's brother is getting married, and a mutual friend was kind of offended that she hadn't been invited - but it is a small mostly-family wedding). and when i got married, i admittedly was lazy about sharing information with most people beyond facebook posts/pictures. maybe it was something like your friend's phone broke and she put up a facebook post requesting people's numbers, and you slipped through the cracks. it sucks though, and i totally understand being hurt and feeling left out.

i do agree the congratulatory card suggested by above anon is the best course of action.