[ SECRET POST #3093 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3093 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Hitchhiker's Guide to The Galaxy]


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[Brendon Urie/Panic at the Disco]


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[Steven Universe]


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[Bones]


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[Ghostbusters, Bill Murray]


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[Game of Thrones]













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Comments

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[(Anonymous)]

tbh as someone who has had this kind of relationship.... you probably aren't her best friend. You might mean a lot to her in an abstract way, but if you've been completely out of contact for years and this is a recurring thing, then for most people that isn't actually friendship.

Storytime:
Years ago I was in this position with the girl I thought of as my 'best friend'. I based her 'best friend'-ness on the fact that we'd been through some shit years before, even though we'd drop in and out of contact all the time. I tried to get in touch with her and found out basically everything in her life had changed in the time we'd not been talking. I asked her why she didn't tell me about all this shit, and she hit me with "Phones go both ways."

She was right, OP. Friendship doesn't happen passively in the background. There were people in my "best friend's" life that she could rely on way more than me, and people in my life who were really my besties unlike this girl that I didn't talk to for years at a time. I was upset because I hadn't been invited to the party, but I could've invited myself at any time just by picking up the phone and showing her that I actually cared about what was happening in her life.

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[(Anonymous)]

This is so full of good points and I just wanted to say that.

Re: Whinging about RL thread

[elaminator]

IA with this. I've had friendships like this in the past, and while that is perfectly fine as long as you're content with it, these type of relationships are different. If you don't talk to someone for months or years at a time, it's reasonable to assume that their life and even personality has changed, and while I can understanding OP wanting to go to their friends wedding, I don't find it too surprising that they weren't invited. (Not because she doesn't like you...but because I'm sure she had a limited number of people to invite, so she probably invited friends and family she keeps in touch with on a regular basis.)

Again, this doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested in talking to you, but if you care about her and want to be a bigger part of her life you're probably going to have to make some changes.