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⌈ Secret Post #3093 ⌋

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It was my goal to be no longer overweight by my birthday, but I have failed. I've lost almost 60 lbs so far which I know is good but I still have to lose about 25 to be at a healthy weight, and since my birthday is two weeks away it's obviously not going to happen. I feel like such a massive failure and everyone around me is like "but you already lost 60 lbs, you should just be happy about that!" and that's NOT THE POINT. The point is that I set a specific goal and I didn't achieve it. Period.

Related: When I was 16 there was this dress I wanted to buy SO BAD. But my mom said I was too fat for it and refused to let me. The thing is, I WASN'T fat back then, I just had an evil looks-obsessed mother who liked to fuck with my head by telling me I was. I would've looked good in that dress, and that's the only time in my life I would've.

Even if I lost enough weight to be that size again...I'm turning 30 in two weeks. I will never again be able to wear a short dress and look good, and the one time in my life when I would've been able to, I wasn't allowed to.

I will never again get to be young and thin and wear the kinds of clothes I wanted to wear back then but couldn't.

The best years of my life and my youth are gone. I wasted my 20s being fat and even if I lose the weight I want to, now my life is basically over.

I can't stop crying. :(

I'm trying to be kind here because you're upset, but I promise you that life does not end at age 30. You can still keep working on your goal of weight loss, there will still be pretty, short, dresses to buy and being over age 30 doesn't mean you can't look good.

You're upset and frustrated. It's causing a big loss of perspective and for the moment, let's set aside how unflattering this sounds to anyone older than 29. It's not real, anon. Your sadness is telling you lies about how your life is over. It isn't. Hopefully one day in the future, you'll look back and think how silly it is to think that being 30+ means having one foot in the grave.

60 lbs. weight loss is amazing, and good on you for achieving that! Keep up the good work, and don't lose hope.

damn, anon, that feeling of regret sucks.

But your 30s of today are kinda the 20s of yesterday. The youth obsession of today also means that you can "get away" with younger looking clothes, even stuff that would ping people as teenager. It's expected that people will want to relieve that time period and you can still look nice while doing so.

probably nicer than your 16 yo self could with a mother who tore her down, pimples (?) and a serious case of awkward baby face (nothing against 16 yo self tho, you were probably cute).
There's a reason why almost ALL teenagers get played by people older than 25 on tv. You've grown and aged. Anybody your age you can actually take seriously will find that more attractive in the end.

Oh anon. Please don't dwell on the bad, you're doing really well! I think setting hard deadlines for weight loss is setting you up for failure because your body can vary so much. Not meeting that deadline really doesn't make you a failure.

Nor is 30 that much of a deadline. You're still so young and have so much more to do in life. Don't hinge everything on the next two weeks prior to 30 :( there's some 40-50 years of life to go and they all have a chance of being your best years.

*hugs and back pats*

Edited 2015-06-24 02:31 (UTC)

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