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⌈ Secret Post #3107 ⌋

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[Fire Emblem: Fates]

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[Ocean's 11]

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[Little Nicky]

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[Devil Survivor 2]

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[Sens8]

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[Mariqueen Reznor]

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[Battle Creek]

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[Lucifer (TV)]

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[Neil Gaiman]

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Nothing was wrong with you. Your parents created an atmosphere where your dad was to be feared. I don't find it surprising, given his "severe" track record, that you might have found him capable of the violent act, even for a moment. Especially if you witnessed any progression with the punishments from a "big intimidating guy."

Fake-stabbing someone with a plastic retractable knife is the kind of thing that would happen between siblings. It's not an appropriate thing for a parent to do to their own child... unless, of course, it's some weird in-joke you have between the two of you, and it's been made clear beforehand that nothing malicious/hurtful/hateful is involved.

I think the reason you freaked out even though your dad was joking is because 1) he was "severe" in the past and 2) in fake-yelling at you, he tied the joke to his treatment/discipline of you as a child. From what I gather, the discipline/intimidation is a bit of a sensitive spot for you, and it sounds like your dad was either clueless about it, or was being a deliberate jerk, or in some way was trying to soften his image of having been an asshole during discipline (or whichever time he was being "severe"). It's already an awkward situation when an intimidating person tries joking with someone who is clearly afraid of him. A joke only works when the person on the receiving end finds it funny. Unfortunately, your dad picked a really, really shitty one to use on you.

I admit I'm looking at your situation through a dirty lens, so I may be off the mark. I had a parental unit who had a habit of joking about things from the past, especially if they were responsible for ruining said things for me. And when all these television reports came out about how yelling was considered verbal abuse, they would pull some Pavlov dog bullshit where they would fake-scream my name across the house until I got pissed off and screamed back, and then they'd say something "nice," as though I'd be conditioned to believe that being screamed at was healthy. In my childhood, screaming accompanied physical abuse during punishments, by parental unit. So yeah. Guess who I don't talk to anymore?

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