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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-07-09 07:10 pm

[ SECRET POST #3109 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3109 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Sense8]


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[Gatchaman Crowds]


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[Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog]


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[Twin Peaks]


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[Blue Beetle]


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[Metroid]


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[God, the Devil and Bob]


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[The Cell (2000)]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 015 secrets from Secret Submission Post #444.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
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belladonna_took: richard armitage (Default)

Re: Getting free stuff from guys consensually

[personal profile] belladonna_took 2015-07-10 02:24 am (UTC)(link)
I would like to warn you that not everyone who engages in this is getting off on giving you free stuff and I'd have very clear boundaries before you go in that you've decided on and know that you will walk away if those boundaries are disrespected in any way. My advice would be to not allow anyone to make direct deposits for any reason, or pay any bills or rent for you. You decide exactly what they can or can't give you, and you don't rely on them to support you financially between jobs or when you're vulnerable for whatever reason.

I say this because I lived in a domestic abuse situation growing up and money was a huge part of it. In public he seemed really generous and he enjoyed "spoiling his girls" but it was about controlling how people saw him. Even things that might seem really nice or harmless can be a way of making you feel you owe something. He took control of money that was legally mine and would sometimes give me money out of that and play it off as a gift, and even though I knew what he was doing, I was financially dependant on him and I had to appear to appreciate it. Don't ever think you're too smart to get stuck in a bad situation, and don't ever be ashamed if you realise you walked right into one.

Good luck with getting free stuff though! I hope it works out for you.