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So, I was reading an "Inappropriate Dating Site Messages" blog (one of the five million out there) and one of the messages was from a guy who basically just wanted to go shopping and buy stuff for a girl. Now if someone wanted to do that with me, and it wouldn't involve any actual sexual contact, I'd have been totally willing to do that...

There's also a fetish, "Financial Domination" which I believe is just one person getting off on giving money to another. Again, sounds pretty ideal to me.

Anyone here do this? How does it work out? Is it actually harder than it sounds? Where do you meet (or find online) someone who gets off on giving you money or buying you stuff without any actual sex?

I believe those are called sugar daddies.

No, "sugar daddy" implies a sexual relationship.

Don't most sugar daddy relationships actually involve sex, though?

I too would like to know about this. I need money for tickets to a thing this weekend.

There should be sugar baby websites. You'd have to be the top of the tops, though.

getting off on giving money to another, doesn't it imply sex?
Accepting gifts and declining a gf/bf things is leading on.

Fetish theorist here. Financial domination most commonly does NOT involve sex, but does involve the domme explicitly talking about how she would never, ever fuck the sub, he's a worthless loser who's totally beneath her and she finds his pathetic sexual desperation hilarious. So he's deriving fetishistic satisfaction from being denied sex and having his sexuality belittled.

I use specifically gendered terms in the preceding paragraph because this fetish, like some others, genders EXTREMELY strongly. Financial domination bottoms are almost exclusively male, and most of the dommes are female. This is because people tend to fetishize weirdly exaggerated versions of existing gender roles, especially ones they're insecure about. Just as women who fear male sexual aggression often have rape/ravishment/noncon fantasies of various stripes, so too do men who've been taught that their only source of worth is financial come to fetishize the exaggerated version of that stereotype.

I have a friend who does financial domination. I'm painfully jealous of her. If you have any questions, maybe I can pass them along?

OH MAN SO MANY QUESTIONS. How did she find someone to dominate? I mean... how do you even go about finding a man who wants to do this? What do her clients end up buying for her? How do clients differentiate between legit dommes and women who are just, well, gold-diggers? What kind of incomes do her clients usually have? Like... is this some weird rich guy fantasy or what?

This thread is the first I've heard of it but now I am painfully jealous as well. Someone buy me lots of shit.

This is the first I've heard of it but tbh the Dom side here is really appealing to me and when I'm more successful in a few years is something I might look into...

Is she good-looking with big tits? I'm not. That's why I can't do this sort of thing. :/

I used to go to a site (forget what it's called, it's been 2+ years) where you set up a profile and it's sorta like a dating site.
You set up a wishlist for giftcards and stuff you want (for example Amazon giftcards). If you don't want anyone to know your real address, you opt for giftcards you can use on the internet.
So when a guy contacts you, in exchange for getting to know you they have to keep buying you giftcards. They can be from the other side of the planet, doesn't matter, and all you need to do is provide them with a picture (it can be a simple facepic, nothing x-rated if you don't wanna) and you basically keep them company by chatting about your daily life.
You can also meet guys IRL where you go shopping and they pay for everything, but I never tried that myself. Too risky imo but I also never heard any horror stories.

I would like to warn you that not everyone who engages in this is getting off on giving you free stuff and I'd have very clear boundaries before you go in that you've decided on and know that you will walk away if those boundaries are disrespected in any way. My advice would be to not allow anyone to make direct deposits for any reason, or pay any bills or rent for you. You decide exactly what they can or can't give you, and you don't rely on them to support you financially between jobs or when you're vulnerable for whatever reason.

I say this because I lived in a domestic abuse situation growing up and money was a huge part of it. In public he seemed really generous and he enjoyed "spoiling his girls" but it was about controlling how people saw him. Even things that might seem really nice or harmless can be a way of making you feel you owe something. He took control of money that was legally mine and would sometimes give me money out of that and play it off as a gift, and even though I knew what he was doing, I was financially dependant on him and I had to appear to appreciate it. Don't ever think you're too smart to get stuck in a bad situation, and don't ever be ashamed if you realise you walked right into one.

Good luck with getting free stuff though! I hope it works out for you.

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