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⌈ Secret Post #3124 ⌋

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[Sherlock]

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[Video Girl Ai]

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(Whiplash)

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(Hannibal fan commenting on Neil Gaiman's American Gods series)

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08. http://i.imgur.com/WNtDaEJ.jpg
[Bram Stoker's Dracula, linked for porn / iirc it's rape in the story]

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09. [WARNING for rape]

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10. [WARNING for rape/child abuse]

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http://i.imgur.com/f8cCfkZ.png
[For the Love of a Child, linked by OP request]

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12. [WARNING for suicide]

[Welcome To Hell]

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... Possible TMI upcoming. I'm asexual, in that I've never been attracted to anyone, and honestly the concept still kind of confuses me, but I also masturbate, especially at certain times of the month, because I enjoy the sensations. I don't ... picture anyone while I'm doing this, the desire isn't attached to any idea of a person, male or female, it's just an urge for the sensation, to feel physically good. It's a bit like needing to pee? I do it to relieve a sense of physical pressure, and to feel pleasant.

I've never been in a relationship, because I've never been romantically attracted to anyone either, but maybe they mean something similar? They get the physical desire now and then and, since they are in a relationship with someone, they enjoy having that someone share it with them. There's no physical attraction to the person themselves, they just ... happen to be there? I don't know. Like I said, the relationship part isn't one I have experience of. But if you felt like enjoying the sensations, and you had someone you loved and trusted with you, you might want to share it with them even if the sensations themselves aren't really inspired by/connected with them at all.

I don't know if that made sense.

Makes sense to me, though I've been in relationships and found out I am not a sharer.

ayrt

That actually makes A LOT of sense! So, like, maybe they get that feeling of "pressure" very often, which translates to "high sex drive."

Thank you anon, this is really helpful!

If you're having sex with others, and enjoying having sex... can you really be considered asexual at that point? While I get what you're saying, there seems to be an obvious scale of asexuality here, with actual asexuality being akin to vegetarians, asexuals who masturbate more like pescatarians, and "asexuals" who are enjoying having sex with other people like... the Meatless Mondays version. Or just, not really asexual at all at that point. I mean if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...

As far as I understand it, sexuality is not about how much sex you have, it's about who you're sexually attracted to. What you're sexually attracted to is a different issue to how high your libido is. A gay man who develops a crushingly low libido for medical reasons is not suddenly asexual so long as he's still attracted to men, yes? He might be celibate, but that's not the same thing. Someone in denial about their orientation is unlikely to change it by having a lot of sex with the gender they're not attracted to, either, even if they happen to enjoy that sex on a physical level (though I understand sexuality can be fluid there). Hell, even within the same orientation, if you're lusting after one person, having even marathon sex with someone else might not change that fact, if what people have told me about lust and desire are true. Who you feel attracted to need have very little bearing on who you have sex with, how often you have said sex, or even how much you enjoy said sex (at least on a physical level).

So I'd say the same is true for asexuals. Having all the sex in the world doesn't change the fact that there's no physical attraction involved in it. If the lust you feel isn't particularly attached to anyone, or the idea of anyone, if it's just a purely physical urge that sometimes you might enjoy sharing, then I'd say you could well be asexual.

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