[ SECRET POST #3132 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3132 ⌋

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Comments

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

They could very well be. I mean, people seem to think they are, or at least that they're abrasive enough to be a troll.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Fair enough. It just seems kind of hasty not to give them the benefit of the doubt when we have no reason not to.

Besides, sometimes it's a little of both, dickishness and intelligence. In my experience, people who are smarter than most can often be rather arrogant or insensitive, because they're sick of trying to explain the obvious to people and having people just not get it. This seems to be especially true for smart people who are still fairly young (maybe mid-twenties and below?) because they sometimes haven't figured out about using their intellectual intelligence to inform their emotional intelligence.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Real intelligence, in the end, means being able to appreciate the learning experiences that are present in interactions with everyone, no matter how smart they are or at what level. This can definitely take some time to develop.

When I was in my childhood and teens I felt frustrated at how slow everyone else was and how they missed even the most obvious things. People cut me a lot of slack because I was supposed to be this weird smart kid, but really I was just a superior jerk. Nowadays other people are constantly surprising me and I keep learning from them. They didn't change, but I did.

Emotional intelligence is a good way of putting it, although it's more like a skillset. It takes longer to develop than the other kind of intelligence.

I still haven't learned how to do this with my parents, unfortunately. I'm still a jerk to them. How can they be so slow and ignorant of basic facts? Why do they make their minds up constantly before looking at the data? How can we be at all related? I just avoid interactions with them, mostly, as I can't help being rude even when I try not to be. It's not that they're stupid, it's that they're so irrational and proud of drawing conclusions that fly in the face of the facts.

Luckily I've found a very few number of people in real life whom I get on with (mostly engineers) and married one of them, so now I'm happy.

Hope you eventually find the same in fandom, OP.

On the way, try to be as polite and diplomatic as you can. You're never going to change the opinion of some stranger on the internet just because you show them the facts, so why not spend that energy finding sympathetic fellow fans instead?