[ SECRET POST #3139 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3139 ⌋

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Comments

Re: nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

na My knowledge of sex was from David Attenborough documentaries, so it took me a long time to realise men/women don't routinely do it doggy style. Also, I learned a few things from fairly crappy sex education at school (putting a condom on a banana was the highlight though).

My parents (atheist but with religious upbringings) never gave me "the talk", and must have cultivated a fear of my own genitalia in me from very young, because I remember the first time I tried to masturbate was at 21, and I honestly thought it was soooo unhygienic that I had to go scrub my hands with soap after every time. I didn't know where my clitoris was, had to discover it.

I think I'm still suffering long-term from a discomfort with my body's sexuality & pleasure that I've tried very hard to overcome through lack of boundaries with other people (didn't work very well). Perhaps one day I will.

Re: nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know if it was Attenborough or someone else, but according to family legend, my response to being told that I was going to have another little brother or sister was to ask my parents if they had "mated again".

The only time I remember my parents talking to me about sex was when my mother, through the harsh realities of living in a tiny town, wound up being the teacher who did the sex ed bits with us. (I don't even remember it as particularly awkward) Then again, who the heck knows how much she knew about how much I knew - it wasn't like she didn't know about the things I was reading. In the end, there never was a need to talk about it, and we never did.

I've always felt that sex was something intensely private and embarassing to talk about - but never something to be ashamed over. I'm entirely lacking the religious context (super secular nominally Lutheran goes-to-church-as-a-Christmas-tradition family), but regardless of the reason, it makes me sad when I hear about people who are afraid or revolted by their own bodies. For all the stereotypes about fandom being all about porn, the frank and joyful attitude to sex is something that is probably useful for a lot of people who just aren't finding that offline.

Re: nayrt

[elialshadowpine]

... omfg anon thank you. I thought I was the only one. I watched TONS of nature documentaries in single digits, because I loved animals, all kinds (but especially wolves and big cats). When I was 11 and a friend who was a year older started talking about sex, I was extremely confused about how she was describing it. I was like, "Don't... you do it from... behind?" She looked at me like I was nuts and was kinda a jerk about it. Okay, more than kinda. A lot more than kinda.

My sex ed came from the internet, because this was the mid-to-late 90s and my parents were like, "Unfiltered internet access? Sure!" so I ended up on Scarleteen and a relationship-and-sex-oriented forum that was mostly people in their late teens/early twenties, where I learned a lot of the more *cough* practical things. My dad's idea of "sex ed" was... uh. Yeah, by the time he got around to that, I already knew that more than half of what he was telling me was wrong (like "don't have sex on your period or you'll get pregnant" -- THE FUCK DAD?).

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. :( *hugs offered, if wanted*