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...ooooor the part where the entire concept of sexual attraction is alien to me. Which is what both of those experiences are symptomatic of. I'm told that Chris Evas is sex on legs, but I wouldn't be more interested in sleeping with him than with Angela Merkel. Good night.

dude, not being attracted to someone is one thing, but if you can't see why anyone is ever attracted to anyone, that's a problem you need professional help for

*sigh* I can tell when someone looks conveniently attractive because pop culture has made no secret about what "sexy" looks like. The point was that you could line up a choice selection of those someones, and I still wouldn't find any of them to be a better prospect for sex than any random member of the European Commission. Society tells me that I should want to have sex with a pair of bouncy tits and a brazillian, but those things don't turn me on any more than stretch marks and a hairy fanny. Society tells me that I should want to shag a man of a certain age with the right fat-to-muscle percentage, but that doesn't appeal any more to me than Prince Charles does.

I know about sexual attraction. I'm certainly not denying that it exists. But I can't fully understand it, because I've never once felt it. If sex is about feeling good, then I've mastered that part of it without needing someone else. Could I have sex with someone and like it? Sure. And if I was in a relationship, I would. But I still wouldn't find the prospect of sex with my SO to be more arousing than having sex with the middle-aged couple next door, because I wouldn't find any of those prospects arousing at all.

They used "understand" to mean "empathise". Like, I don't understand what it's like to be trans, that doesn't mean I don't think it's a real lived experience, just very different from my experiences.

Hi fellow autochorisexual! Sorry I haven't been more involved in this conversation. I've been afk all day and meanwhile you've been dealing with such ignorance, condescension, and rudeness in this thread that it's turning my stomach a little.

Despite not having much of a libido (especially after going on BC for adult acne), I still identify very strongly with the way you describe your sexuality.

I have never wanted to have sex with someone else. I've never met a person who turns me on. My sexual fantasies are always about other people having sex, never about ME. Seriously, it happens.

This this THIS. HOW is this so hard for people to understand?! Perhaps they just don't want to understand it, IDK.

If I had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, I'd have sex with them. I'd probably even like it.

I envy you this, a little. I'm much further towards the Do Not Want end of the spectrum when it comes to sexual activity. I probably would have had sex by now, just to have done it once, if it weren't for the fact that I can't imagine it being anything other than deeply psychologically and physically uncomfortable.

Heh, it mostly just seems like identity policing by someone who's not actually part of the identity. I don't think I'm changing anyone's mind, but it's grating to have someone tell me that I'm not asexual when I've spent enough of my time on Earth being troubled about the fact that I'm not interested in boys but I'm not interested in girls either and waaah what's wrong with me.

I'm not interested in being in a relationship, so the chances of me ever sleeping with someone are slim. But still, it IS relieving to know that if I ever found someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, the bedroom part wouldn't be an unberable duty.

but it's grating to have someone tell me that I'm not asexual when I've spent enough of my time on Earth

Yeah, I was kind of mindblown by the extent to which they were talking to you/us like we're thirteen-year-olds jumping to conclusions at our first brush with sex, as opposed to mature, level-headed adults. As though we haven't got a pretty huge amount of time, thought, and experience behind our understandings of our own sexual identities.

And as though "I'm well into adulthood and have never felt sexually attracted to another person, ever," is not pretty conclusive on its own.

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