[ SECRET POST #3139 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3139 ⌋

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Comments

Re: nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting. I agree with you that it's always seemed a bit odd to me that people view sex as something super-special-awesome, while masturbation is meh, not worth anything, or sometimes even seen as pathetic and desperate, rather than pretty much as satisfying as sex with another person. Why would it be that way?

I think that's a question worth digging into further rather than chalking it up to innate sexuality differences (or "I'll never understand this bizarre mindset because I'm asexual"). From what I read about the people you mention (people who are willing to pay, put up with crap, or endanger themselves for the chance to have sex with someone), the sex is actually usually not really about sex so much as romance, closeness, and acceptance. It seems like it's more about the desire for emotional/physical closeness, for a feeling of being desirable and fuckable, an indication of trust and being valued by that person. Not all people assign these kinds of meanings to sex, but if you do, I think it makes sense that attraction would follow.

Attraction is kind of like wishful thinking. A platonic version would be like, "Oh I wish I was closer to X. If we were BFF's we'd have sleepovers on the weekend and go over to each other's houses to play video games together" or whatnot. I think sexual attraction is just the sexual version of that? Or am I way off here?

Re: nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

The bottom line is that most people seem to find the idea of going a lifetime without sex upsetting; seem to find it unreasonable to be asked to be in a longtime relationship with someone who won't sleep with them. If someone told me that, I'd just shrug and go on my merry way, since I've still got my right hand. I don't understand the mechanisms that would make people unhappy about a lifetime with their right hand instead of another person.

Re: nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

For me, I wanna have sex with other people because I'm a kinky sub and it's just not the same for me imagining (even with good porn and wanking technique) being held down, dominated, whipped, fucked, as the feeling of terror, risk, pain, endorphins, pleasure, relief, safety from actually experiencing those things. I don't know if that puts me in a different category. I'm not very attracted to people in general though, so I want experiences more than specific people.