Don't be too afraid to try talking to people on tumblr! Seriously. Most folks are pretty chill (of course, that could be a fandom-dependent thing...).
The thing that can be difficult about it is that, often, you really have to be persistent. You've got to send multiple asks over time and comment regularly on their posts to get anywhere, which is admittedly kind of annoying.
Re: Thoughts on other sites
The thing that can be difficult about it is that, often, you really have to be persistent. You've got to send multiple asks over time and comment regularly on their posts to get anywhere, which is admittedly kind of annoying.