[ SECRET POST #3144 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3144 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Grace Kelly, Judy Garland]


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[Soragumi, Shizuki Asato]












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Comments

Re: relationship bullshit; warnings for tl;dr, possible eating disorders, all-around stupid bullshit

[(Anonymous)]

You're not in the wrong, your boyfriend is. He's also a gigantic manchild, and you should really, really consider whether or not you want to be his mother for life, because this is apparently what he wants out of a relationship. Yes, he might be depressed and in recovery, but this does not excuse being a jerk to you when you are the one doing nearly all the work around the house. You were doing something nice for him by picking up some food. All he had to do was make a decision about what food he wanted, and you would hand deliver it to his bedside and THAT was too much for him? And then he wants to make you feel guilty when you're already waiting for him hand and foot? Let me ask you something... if your situations were reversed and you were laid up in bed unable to move much, do you think your boyfriend would pick up the slack and do everything you're doing for him, competently and without expecting a damn ticker tape parade for doing what competent adults do every day? My guess is NO.

So nah, fuck that guy. This is not a healthy relationship and you deserve better. This thread was made for people in your situation:

http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor

I know it's long, but it's worth a read for the insights and anecdotes from other women who are stuck doing the bulk of the emotional labor in their relationships for people who don't value the work.

Re: relationship bullshit; warnings for tl;dr, possible eating disorders, all-around stupid bullshit

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I love my boyfriend, but I'm really feelin' this right now. And I'm going to read that thread, too. Thank you.

Re: relationship bullshit; warnings for tl;dr, possible eating disorders, all-around stupid bullshit

[(Anonymous)]

You're welcome. There's a lot of variety in that thread, not just from people who are bitter about exes. Lots of women read it, suddenly realized that THIS is why they always feel drained or taken for granted or unhappy even though they love their partner. Sadly, getting the partner to realize it is a whole other thing, but that thread alone is a good eye-opener for people (like you) who wonder if they're being unreasonable.