[ SECRET POST #3144 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3144 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Grace Kelly, Judy Garland]


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Comments

Re: Sexist mother...venting

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

I'd agree with you if this was a one off remark from the OP's mother, but it's not. When someone believes they can say whatever shitty thing they want and everyone else is "too sensitive" when they protest, then giving that person a break only results in more shitty remarks. People like that have been given way too many breaks already, that's why they think their behavior is okay and everyone else is nuts for thinking it's not okay.

Also, OP didn't even give her mother a hard time. Saying "WTF, that's not cool" is a perfectly reasonable reaction to your mother telling a friend (while you're right there!) that you were a rotten kid who made her life hell and you're still an awful adult.

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[(Anonymous)]

Basically all of this.

I would understand giving them a break if it were a genuine one time thing. But when it's a pattern of behavior as OP suggests, giving them a break would just be telling them this behavior is okay.

People like this call everyone else oversensitive and expect them all to "just get over it" when they say shitty stuff because they're too self centered and stuck in their ways to want to change. They just want to blame everyone else for being unreasonable.

They need more people to tell them "no that's not okay" and drill it into their heads that they can't just get away with being shitty to people over and over.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

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OP

Yes, exactly. My dad is a very non-confrontational person, so though he and I have discussed multiple times how both of us are hurt by her behavior, he says he'd rather not say anything to avoid causing drama. Because he lets her get away with it (and my opinions don't matter because PMS) she thinks it's acceptable.

Anyway, I've talked to her since this post and she claims she's sorry and that she realized she shouldn't have said what she did and won't say things like that again. I'm not totally convinced she means it, but...we'll see.