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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-08-13 06:46 pm

[ SECRET POST #3144 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3144 ⌋

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Re: Sexist mother...venting

(Anonymous) 2015-08-14 02:15 am (UTC)(link)
+1 to the above comments.
OP, you do not have to be the recipient of all that crap, even if it's from your mother. Even if you genuinely feel sorry for her because of her upbringing, she is an adult, which should mean she is capable of learning that you don't tolerate lies from ANYONE.
Should she start abusing you verbally again, leave. Failing that, avoid excusing or denying her behavior. If she gets punished by others for her ugly behavior, don't help her out of her troubles. If she can't cope with you or starts getting more seriously abusive, have an escape strategy available. This could mean taking shelter away from your home with her.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

(Anonymous) 2015-08-14 02:19 am (UTC)(link)
SA

...assuming you live with her.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

(Anonymous) 2015-08-14 02:29 am (UTC)(link)
OP

Luckily, I don't live with her. Currently we do spend a lot of time together, though, so I think I'm going to start spending less time with her, and when I AM with her, stand my ground a bit more instead of not challenging what she says (and most of the time I actually don't challenge her, just when she says something particularly egregious). Maybe if she starts to see her behavior having consequences and affecting our relationship, she might reconsider the way she acts.