[ SECRET POST #3146 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3146 ⌋

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Re: Advice Thread

[(Anonymous)]

You're not being unreasonable. This woman and her family sound nasty, and you're right to not want to engage them. The issue isn't so much with them as it is with your mother, who keeps engaging with them even though part of her realizes it's a bad idea. A lot depends on how aware your mother is of their awful toxicity and whether or not she's drawn any boundaries for herself when it comes to dealing with them. Questions to consider:

* Is this something her friend asked her to do?
* Does your mother have a spending limit in mind?
* Can you guys actually afford to be spending money on people who suck?
* Can your mother go shopping by herself, or does she need you for transportation?
* How much have you talked with your mother about this?

A lot of people are reluctant to cut ties with "friends" like this, for many reasons. It's hard to separate someone from their toxic friend and you'd know better than we would how difficult it'd be to talk your mother out of this. If you can't convince her that this is a bad idea (and I'll bet you good money your friend's mother will NOT be grateful at all), then try a compromise: you'll drop your mother off somewhere to shop, you'll set a low price limit for the present of what you can afford, and you will go off and do something nice.

But honestly, best scenario is for you to encourage your mother to limit contact with these people, set some healthy boundaries and enforce them and NOT fall prey to users like this.