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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-08-16 03:35 pm

[ SECRET POST #3147 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3147 ⌋

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Re: Advice

(Anonymous) 2015-08-16 10:34 pm (UTC)(link)
I want to have the same relationship I had with someone before they did something pretty bad that I'm still mad about. I did talk to them and I told them how I felt. They've tried justifying it but there's been no acknowledgement of wrongdoing or any kind of apology, and it's not something I can ignore.

What do I even do here?

Re: Advice

(Anonymous) 2015-08-16 10:38 pm (UTC)(link)
Grieve for what youve lost and move on. There's no going back; try to find that relationship with someone who doesn't make you mad and try to justify it.

Re: Advice

(Anonymous) 2015-08-16 10:49 pm (UTC)(link)
I know I can't fix it, but I guess I'm still in the denial stage of grief. :(

Re: Advice

(Anonymous) 2015-08-17 03:04 am (UTC)(link)
Move on. You can't force a person to be sorry about something that's a dealbreaker for you, and the fact that this person KNOWS you're upset and STILL doesn't feel it's important enough to apologize is a big red flag. You can't change them, so you need to figure out what you want to do next.

I'll tell you, though... if you cave and be with this person even though they haven't apologized, you'll be teaching them that they can do whatever shitty thing they want and you'll put up with that. Please don't go down that road, there's only unhappiness and frustration at the end.

Re: Advice

(Anonymous) 2015-08-17 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks. I know if I'm being smart it's not healthy. I just feel really bitter about it.