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[Gravity Falls]

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[Anastasia]

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(Amazing Spiderman reboot)

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My brother just went on a beach vacation with all of his friends. It looked really fun. I would have loved to have gone camping and swimming with friends but I don't have any to go with. All I've done literally a whole year is work and I have seen a friend exactly once.

What do you do, fandomsecrets?

Find something to obsess over.

Just get lost in other things, I guess.

It's not easy, in the same way that trying to forget about the lack of any other basic human need is hard.

I'm sorry that I don't have any other advice, and I'm sorry things are like that for you rn.

Well, the easiest thing is to find someone to talk to, but that isn't always easy considering it can be part of the problem. Even talking online can help though. (Good thing f!s is here, you know? Not even joking, I love having you guys to talk to.)

If I can't do that, I'll distract myself with something else.

Sorry, OP. I hope things change for you. Maybe take more time to yourself, try to meet some new people?

I feel less lonely when I keep busy with things that involve getting out of the house and having new experiences and/or physical activity. Museums, movies, festivals, state parks, neighborhood walks, street fairs, day trips, etc.

Grab a casual acquaintance who has shared interest and do something with them. Ie. I saw mad max with a bunch of relative strangers. Gotta start casual friendship somewhere?

+1

If you've got friends and you just don't see them much, then get together with them. If you don't have friends, work on making new ones. There are a million and one excuses for not being social, but the consequence will keep being loneliness.

Look, I get it. I hate going out, I dislike committing to plans, and all my friends live far away. But when I get lonely, that's just the price I pay for not making new connections with people. It sucks, and it's difficult, but it can in fact be done. Join a gym, pursue an interest (I've been considering the local amateur astronomy club or weekly tai chi meetup group), go to church (or a bar, but church is cheaper), and talk to people.

Chatting through social media or other online venues works for me. You can find penpals and stuff through places like okcupid etc. It's easier just to find a forum like this place though. If you really need more human interaction, some fandoms have skype groups.

I haven't had a local friend in 10 years. I just immerse myself in music and music history and it doesn't feel too bad.

IMO, often loneliness is just that - comparing yourself to others and a social expectation to have friends. Like, it's not an intristic need.
I'd just feel sorry for myself, go near a body of water and gaze sadly at it. :D

Think about myself at lot and what I need to work on or improve.

I find that being alone doesn't have to be lonely as long as you make it time to do something specific like a project or working toward a personal goal.

Jogging isn't lonely, for example. Neither is gardening, creating art, meditating, taking time for self-care... I'd say that as long as you aren't always alone and there are people you can rely on for support, it's actually a good thing to learn how to be alone.

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