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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-08-25 06:38 pm

[ SECRET POST #3156 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3156 ⌋

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[Spider Riders]


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[Shameless]


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[The Mighty Boosh]


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[Glitch]


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[Fire Emblem: Awakening]


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[Kaikisen]


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[Kingdom Hearts 2]


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Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-25 11:24 pm (UTC)(link)
It's kind of a minor thing, but it's irritating and confusing me. SO wants to have sex, but he's doing everything in his power to turn me off. He came on to me in a little boy voice and did some kind of Molly Shannon thing with his legs. He tensed up and started shuddering violently when he kissed me because he thought it'd be funny. He took my hands and pressed them to his face, hard, and lolled his tongue around. He poked at his crotch and shouted, "it's hard!" He performed an OTT fake orgasm.

I have no idea what he's doing. He's acting like he's 12. My clit has shriveled and died watching it all. I don't understand why he would act this way when it's so clear that it's a huge turn off. I even outright said it was and he still just keeps on doing it. It's driving me crazy and there's no way I'm having sex with him tonight, so yay for you, SO. I was actually horny earlier today but that's all gone now.

WTF, FS.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-25 11:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Just sounds like he's in a really weird mood? IDK.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-25 11:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Later, when you refuse to have sex and he wants to know why, say again "because you turned me waaaaaay off. I don't like when you act that way. It's not sexy in the slightest."

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-25 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)
He probably thinks he's being funny. Or maybe he's self-conscious about something? Ask him why he's doing all that, maybe.

Re: Vent thread

[personal profile] herpymcderp 2015-08-26 12:37 am (UTC)(link)
If you communicated your intention to fuck him earlier, then my guess would be this: he probably doesn't actually want to have sex with you and is doing his level best to get you out of the mood while trying to make it seem like you're the one not responding to advances.

I have known guys to pull things like this when they have something else they'd rather be doing.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-26 12:41 am (UTC)(link)
That, or he's just really bad at talking openly about his ageplay kink. Which, to be fair, is very hard to talk openly about.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-26 03:31 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to inform you that you're dating a man child who likely wants to put the blame on his bad sex life on you rather than him. I have no idea why, but that's what it looks like from here. If he complains or asks why you two aren't getting it on, don't sugarcoat it for him at all. "I told you that weird, childish behavior was a real turn off, and it is. That's why we're not having sex."

But seriously, if he's like this on a regular basis, you should probably consider dating adults only. The world has enough immature dudes, no need to reward them with longterm relationships.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-26 06:22 am (UTC)(link)
Did you tell him this? Honestly, here's a piece of relationship advice I wish someone had given me: deal with issues and problems as they come. Don't procrastinate and stew over it in private or with friends, don't ignore it hoping he'll straighten up and not act like a dick on his own. It won't fix itself, and by letting it go on the problem gets worse and harder to address.

Ask him why he's acting like this. Be blunt with him that you were frisky, but this behavior has killed the mood completely.

It could be that your boyfriend was trying to be playful, but frankly, the behavior you describe sounds so bizarre I could totally understand why you were turned off by it. Because who the fuck does that shit? If your boyfriend was unable to read your (I presume) "WTF stop this" expression, then I'd be concerned about that, too.



Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-26 04:04 pm (UTC)(link)
If you told him that his behavior is a total turnoff and he still insists on doing it, he either does not gaf what you think or feel or he wants to break up with you and is too chickenshit to just do it already. Yikes.