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I gotta vent. If you need to vent too, here's a thread for it!

My thing'll be in a separate comment.

I hate that "moral obligations" thread above. It's predicated on a black-and-white, all-good/all-bad world that doesn't fucking exist.

I think you're making it more black and white than it's intended to be. There are several threads where 'moral obligations' or what people feel are obligations are understood to be subjective just like the idea of 'good/bad'.

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A bunch of the answers there are saying "it's complicated" though

(also you can have black-and-white principles while also acknowledging and dealing with a world that is grey and full of things that are both good and bad) (that's kind of the entire purpose of moral judgment)

Meh. Most of the GC threads are. I think b/c they're nor meant to be serious/generate an essay in every comment.

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Okay, as the starter of the thread above, you're reading a bunch into it that wasn't there. "I think this is a moral obligation," "I don't think this is one," and "my moral system can't determine without more information" or "I don't believe in or have moral systems" would all have been fine and valid answers? I was asking people's opinions according to them, not trying to judge people one way or the other. If you notice I haven't sided with anyone and my one question was mainly whether one anon thought not being a dick was a moral obligation or not, and it turned out they didn't, so that explained what they said.

I understand people who shout about morals and try to pressure them on people are everywhere and obnoxious dicks and I hate them too, but asking whether you would consider something moral or not is not nearly the same thing. I get the feeling you're judging me for bringing up the idea of morals before reading anything I say. :\

It's kind of a minor thing, but it's irritating and confusing me. SO wants to have sex, but he's doing everything in his power to turn me off. He came on to me in a little boy voice and did some kind of Molly Shannon thing with his legs. He tensed up and started shuddering violently when he kissed me because he thought it'd be funny. He took my hands and pressed them to his face, hard, and lolled his tongue around. He poked at his crotch and shouted, "it's hard!" He performed an OTT fake orgasm.

I have no idea what he's doing. He's acting like he's 12. My clit has shriveled and died watching it all. I don't understand why he would act this way when it's so clear that it's a huge turn off. I even outright said it was and he still just keeps on doing it. It's driving me crazy and there's no way I'm having sex with him tonight, so yay for you, SO. I was actually horny earlier today but that's all gone now.

WTF, FS.

Just sounds like he's in a really weird mood? IDK.

Later, when you refuse to have sex and he wants to know why, say again "because you turned me waaaaaay off. I don't like when you act that way. It's not sexy in the slightest."

He probably thinks he's being funny. Or maybe he's self-conscious about something? Ask him why he's doing all that, maybe.

If you communicated your intention to fuck him earlier, then my guess would be this: he probably doesn't actually want to have sex with you and is doing his level best to get you out of the mood while trying to make it seem like you're the one not responding to advances.

I have known guys to pull things like this when they have something else they'd rather be doing.

That, or he's just really bad at talking openly about his ageplay kink. Which, to be fair, is very hard to talk openly about.

I'm sorry to inform you that you're dating a man child who likely wants to put the blame on his bad sex life on you rather than him. I have no idea why, but that's what it looks like from here. If he complains or asks why you two aren't getting it on, don't sugarcoat it for him at all. "I told you that weird, childish behavior was a real turn off, and it is. That's why we're not having sex."

But seriously, if he's like this on a regular basis, you should probably consider dating adults only. The world has enough immature dudes, no need to reward them with longterm relationships.

Did you tell him this? Honestly, here's a piece of relationship advice I wish someone had given me: deal with issues and problems as they come. Don't procrastinate and stew over it in private or with friends, don't ignore it hoping he'll straighten up and not act like a dick on his own. It won't fix itself, and by letting it go on the problem gets worse and harder to address.

Ask him why he's acting like this. Be blunt with him that you were frisky, but this behavior has killed the mood completely.

It could be that your boyfriend was trying to be playful, but frankly, the behavior you describe sounds so bizarre I could totally understand why you were turned off by it. Because who the fuck does that shit? If your boyfriend was unable to read your (I presume) "WTF stop this" expression, then I'd be concerned about that, too.

If you told him that his behavior is a total turnoff and he still insists on doing it, he either does not gaf what you think or feel or he wants to break up with you and is too chickenshit to just do it already. Yikes.

My kitchen is absolutely disgusting. My roommates and I cycle on who is supposed to clean it every week, but they never do it. Or if they do, it's a half-assed job. I did it two weeks ago, last week was skipped, looks like this week is skipped, too. I am refusing to give in and do it myself, because fuck them, it is gross. But I can't even cook in there because it smells so bad and there are flies all over the place, so I've been wasting money with takeaway food.

Luckily we're done with this place really soon, and then I get to move out (yay!). But I'm also dreading the move-out cleaning. I'm almost certain that I'm the only one who is going to actually do it.

That sucks.

But, for me, just personally, the point where there are flies and shit is the point where I just give in and start cleaning.

Do you have cups or plates or dishes that are yours? I would say do it but take your stuff out of the kitchen afterward and tell them you're not using it any more at all- since you're not using it anyway- and they can split up the cleaning duties between them from now on.

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I really hate that I have to move home because I don't have a job. I'm just frustrated and feeling like a failure. And I hate packing and moving. And I hate flying. And I don't feel good and I don't want to be dealing with this.

Another one of my siblings seems to be fucking up their life. And this one has 3 kids. I do not have enough money to help get them out where I live as well.

Not a vent as in "I'm angry" kind of thing, but in a "I need to get this off my chest" kind of thing.

My husband and I essentially have lost all semblance of a relationship with his parents over the past year. It's been really hard on him, because as an adult (in some idealized times, but not always) he had gotten really close with his dad. However, his dad was a complete dick to him growing up, and at some points during his adulthood. He was explosively verbally abusive when my husband was a teenager, and verged on physically abusive. He destroyed my husband's entire kite collection when he was like 12 (my 45-yo husband still chokes up talking about it), and threw a hammer at him on a construction site when he was maybe 16. Honest to god, only his good reflexes saved his life.

His mother is another piece of work. She is lying, manipulative, and likely has some kind of shopping addiction that causes her to lie and manipulate in order to get more $$$ to feed her addiction. When my husband was in his early 20s, he had a land contract with his mom to gradually buy a house from her. He was paying her well over the mortgage amount to pay it off quickly. Meanwhile, this home was owned by his parents and in absolutely shit-level disrepair. Like, he had a bucket as a drain for the kitchen sink and nearly electrocuted himself trying to get the heater started. Guess what she did? Pocketed the extra cash, told him the deal had changed, and that was the end of it. No explanation given. STILL my husband paid her extra money to help his folks out, and worked for his father's construction company for free half the time because she would forget to pay him.

Cut to many years later, we use his mom as a real estate agent. She completely fucks us on two deals in a row. Fails to warn us about the mold hazard in a home we actually purchased because she wanted to get the deal done and get her commission. Then tanked another land-purchase deal because her arrogant ass could not admit that she neither understood the relevant real estate market nor could negotiate at anything but the most basic level.

So we wrote her a complaint letter, as one would do in a business transaction. She flew OFF THE FRICKING HANDLE. Denied everything, did her best to throw me under the bus, etc., etc. So we wrote another letter further detailing the incident, pointing to the real estate ethics code that she repeatedly violated. She didn't even bother to read it. She couldn't believe her son would "accuse" her of such things. So she met my husband in a park, alone, and repeatedly told him she never wants to see him again, nor does his father.

Meanwhile, she's painting a rosy picture to the rest of his family and all of her friends on how she's been wronged and we're so evil. And how she totes made up with him at the park and she can't understand why he doesn't want to come over for holidays....

There's more, enough to fill a novel more. But the long and the short of it is that my husband has been depressed for close to a year now, over the loss of the relationship with his parents, and even moreso that he's having to come to terms with the fact that they are not the fine upstanding people he thought they were, and actually pretty much suck as human beings. I feel terrible for him, and understand it on some level because they are his parents. But on the other hand, I have a bit of a hard time truly "getting" it, because I never understood why he was such a devoted son to these people who had perpetuated so much shit in his life. Anyway. I'm doing my best to help him cope. Time wounds all heels, right?

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(Anonymous) - 2015-08-26 23:43 (UTC) - Expand

Stupid allergies. My eyes have been itchy and dripping all day and I don't know why it is driving me nuts.

Also stupid cicadas need to go away so I can sleep.

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philstar22 - 2015-08-26 01:54 (UTC) - Expand

I'm most likely getting laid off.

And it's awkward because the don't know I know (because the temp agency informed me last week my contract won't be renewed, but i only have a planned meeting on Thursday, so I guess they'll "tell" me then.

Also I didn't care for the job, but i hoped to be there a couple more months for the money.

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kallanda_lee - 2015-08-26 06:54 (UTC) - Expand

It's flooding again. I don't really have plans that this is ruining or anything, but the constant swooooosh noises of people driving full speed through my flooded street are annoying me.

I can hear you not stopping to assess the safety of the situation out there.
I hope your car stalls in a deep puddle.

I'm an art major and last semester all my work sucked cause I was suicidal as fuck and couldn't focus on my art and I don't know what to tell my professors about why all my work last semester sucked cause apparently its ~a bad idea~ to tell them the truth but nothing else explains it. Whatever. I'm a shitty artist anyway and I'm getting a useless major.