[ SECRET POST #3156 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3156 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Spider Riders]


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[Shameless]


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[The Mighty Boosh]


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[Glitch]


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[Fire Emblem: Awakening]


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[Kaikisen]


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[Kingdom Hearts 2]


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[Yu-Gi-Oh]














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Comments

[elaminator]

As with most things, it really depends on the circumstance.

I think in most cases giving an explanation will help them find closure (that goes for you as well). Sometimes not having that closure can be damn painful and leave you eternally wondering "what went wrong?"

But I don't think you're obligated, it's just the more thoughtful thing to do. In some cases I would even advise against it.

For example, if you're in an abusive relationship...you owe that shit nothing, and you shouldn't feel the least bit guilty for cutting them out of your life completely. However, it could also be best to make sure they know why you don't want to see them again, so they won't try to contact you again. That said, they might not respect your wishes anyway. Just be careful.

And even if a relationship isn't exactly abusive, if you feel the relationship is unhealthy and think or know the person in question is going to try to talk you out of cutting contact with them (and you realize you are susceptible to such things), then I find it understandable to not give an explanation. I mean, it could help them in their future relationships to know what went wrong and what they should change, but obviously looking after yourself is important too.

[(Anonymous)]

If they're already abusive, there is no reason you can give them that will make them respect your choice not to see them again. They already believe your boundaries and reasons mean nothing.

So if the relationship is abusive, gtfo. Give them no more contact with you. It won't change them, it won't help or protect you.

[elaminator]

I probably should've added that meeting them again is a no no, and if you want to tell them not to contact you again do it some other way. (Email, text, whatever, then lose their information for good.) Honestly I get what you're saying; if the person is abusive they don't have respect for you anyway, but in that case they are probably the kind of person who would come after you demanding an explanation. No they don't deserve it, but I could see how it might deter some. Not nearly all, but maybe a few? Idk, I've never been in a similar relationship, would threatening legal action help? (I feel like I've heard that restraining orders aren't that effective... But it must be better than nothing, right?)