[ SECRET POST #3160 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3160 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I agree with all of this.

But I think one of the problems is that it can be difficult to tell, from the outside, the difference between creepy and socially awkward. Those categories can easily shade into each other and are kind of in the eye of the beholder. So - while everything you say is true when it comes to the creepy person - I think it's slightly more difficult in practice how you should deal with those people. Because sometimes what we read as creepy comes from social awkwardness, and sometimes it comes from shittiness.

With, of course, the baseline understanding that it's always your prerogative to feel uncomfortable about something.

[(Anonymous)]

It's actually pretty easy to tell: if someone comes off as creepy, they're creepy. It may not be intentional, and they might be perfectly willing to modify their behavior once they realise they're making people want to scale the walls to get the fuck away from them, but creepy behavior isn't automatically uncreepy if it's driven by ignorance rather than malice.

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NYART

Kinda like toxic people in a way.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't see the importance of making a fine distinction here. If people find someone creepy, and social awkwardness plays a role in that assessment, they are still creepy. Creepiness is an impression, not an intention.

I think the thing to think about is why would people prefer to be labeled socially awkward instead of creepy, all things equal? Is it because creepiness is seen as there being intent to harm, whereas social awkwardness has no such intent, just cluelessness? But I think most people who are creepy-but-not-socially-awkward don't actually mean to harm. They just want things to go their way. This desire for control can lead to disrespect for other people's boundaries, which is experienced by other people as creepy.

To me it's like the notion of "racist". People sometimes assume racist people need to have hatred or intent to be hurtful. But many people are racist because they don't think their beliefs are in any way hateful or hurtful.