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[ SECRET POST #3160 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3160 ⌋

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you've been making oblique references to it all summer. ni'm not even saying you're unjustified in doing so, from what you say, but you have been dragging it all over.

References so oblique I had no idea I made them! The prefect crime.

Maybe it's not something you did intentionally, but you have made approximately one billion comments about shitty relationships, not being able to trust people in relationships, being unhappy about human relationships, trying to get over people, being angry at people in general, being angry at people as a result of shitty relationships specifically, etc etc etc.

And, I mean, there's nothing wrong with that, everyone should have the opportunity to bitch about anything. But, at a certain point, it's hard not to start connecting some dots and thinking maybe there was something going on.

+2

Sure you've got a reason, and you apparently do not realise this, but you have made a lot.

Like 2 days ago they had some pithy comment for the "What myths did you believe as a child" thing. It was like, "Everyone is a liar!"

Do you sincerely believe Noodle's the only person I interact with?

....are you being obtuse or do you genuinely tend to take things literally?

We know you have a life, but on FS you're presenting only a small face of it so that's what is going to be associated with you. If you're bitter over something else, say so...or just accept that everyone is going to assume it's over that bitter-causing-thing you HAVE talked about.

We're not mind readers yknow. But we also don't want giant text dumps about this part of your life then be told off for assuming you're upset over what's in the giant text dump.

Alright, fine.

In the course of my life many people have been dishonest with me. The one person I thought would always be honest with me was particularly dishonest. This made me hostile for awhile. Life happened, I got better, met people who treated me better, etc, but was still the same sarcastic woman I always was. Ex is touchy and bans me from one of the only places I can talk to friends I made during former relationship. This sucks. I would like to not lose my friends and that's very likely if I can't communicate with them. It is particularly crappy for an ex who knowingly hurt me to then turn around and keep me from said friends because he's afraid I might be upset about said wronging, especially when I'm better.

Does this help?

Edited 2015-08-30 04:05 (UTC)

That is much better and much more concise so makes more sense when reading it from an outsider POV. That would have been much better for you to post in OP. It's more honest, more to the point and much easier to understand. Also tugs at the emotions instead of looking like an academic piece.

I would take this bit:

"This sucks. I would like to not lose my friends and that's very likely if I can't communicate with them. It is particularly crappy for an ex who knowingly hurt me to then turn around and keep me from said friends because he's afraid I might be upset about said wronging, especially when I'm better. "

and post that with some tweaking as a comment to noodle or the original post.

An example:

"Hi Noodle. This sucks. I would like to not lose my shitstream friends and that's very likely if I can't communicate with them in your shitstream. You may not realise this, but I feel it is particularly crappy for you to keep me from said friends. I think this is because you're afraid I might be upset about said wronging. If I have said anything recently to make you think this could you let me know? I am feeling better and would appreciate being allowed back in."

Now seriously I got to go sleep good luck.

Except this is utter bullshit as everyone that comes to stream posts here using their names. Not to mention you have had over a year to get info to contact these dear dear friends that you apparently only speak to once a week in your exes stream. Grow up. You got called on your crappy comments and clearly he made good on a prior threat to ban you from his steam. and in response you vomited every hurt, slight, and intimate detail to shame him and prove your victimhood. And reading the responses it's pretty clear most of those people you had no way or reaching outside of stream had already been told this whole story by you, so really what you posted was for the rest of us.

Exactly this.

Okay, so if you really think this: who are you from stream?

If you dislike me so much, I'd like to know who you are. I'd told two people. One of those people thought I'd told everyone, which makes me sad.

Edited 2015-08-31 01:55 (UTC)

I'm guessing you've never gone through a bad breakup, nor known anyone who has? This is pretty much going to be her normal state for a while. It will taper off eventually, probably.

Who's forcing you to read these posts?

Thanks, but you're missing the point a bit.

My life's good right now. Legitimately good. I'm trying to explain why it wasn't and the only way I have to do so is detail. People need to know it was actually bad, so that people know a certain measure of hostility was understandable. Otherwise it's just this dude saying "I don't know why she's so touchy!"

I think I buried the lede here.

Edited 2015-08-30 03:51 (UTC)

That's good to hear!

That's a better way to describe it. If you're still gonna post this tomorrow, go with something more like that and less wall-of-text.

I wasn't complaining, I don't have a problem with her or anyone else making posts like that. I really don't want to attack Chard here - I don't have any problems with anything she's done and she seems like a decent person.

I just think maybe it's affected her more and she has more shit wrapped up around the issue than she's really acknowledging. Which, again, is completely understandable.

I'd say most of us anons here realise this. We're not hating on chard, but dear lord would we like for her to take a step back and stop bringing the drama here.

That and it has been, what, a year? By all means she might be slower to recover but bringing it up hear all the time is less helpful and more drama stirring.

and NAYRT this is a nice little community, the wank and drama is fun but this is easily avoided inhouse toic drama. Not as fun.

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