[ SECRET POST #3160 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3160 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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NEW POST.

[chardmonster]

I took it down on good advice. If any NAMED poster wants a copy of the original, PM me. I'll actually check them. That includes Noodle.

Better post: http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/1272935.html?thread=858678119#cmt858678119

Basically:

Noodle cheated on me. Loads, over the entire relationship. And lied to the women he cheated on me with which I found out after some digging. Basically it was really ugly and I felt massively betrayed. Imagine someone who'd heard every single one of your anxieties deliberately confirming them. It was that. But I dated him for a reason and I still showed up to shitstream because I like the people there. It's pretty important to me. But because I was a hurt fallible human I was sometimes obviously angry, and this bugged him.

Tonight, based on a comment about shitstream I thought was innocuous, he banned me. This is actually kind of awful as I have friends I can only really talk to there, and I wasn't given the option to apologize to them. He thinks it's my hostility over the breakup. While I admit there was some--a lot, and justified--it's been a year and a half since, my life's improved dramatically, and what he's reading as recent hostility is me being my normal sarcastic self. I'm not going to treat an ex differently, and I really don't like the ex who hurt me now blocking me from my friends because he's worried. I want to be let in, with a promise that I'll be more careful.

This sucks, dudes. I'd also like to apologize to anyone from Shitstream who sees this and thinks I really did mean to insult them. I'm sorry and should have picked different words. I adore you bastards.

If you don't have a dreamwidth account, please give me a way to contact you.

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[scrubber]

I think you're a good, reasonable person Chard, and I'm sorry you were hurt this way. I'm sincerely happy to here you are in a better place and that things are moving forward for you. I'm honestly glad to hear some of this, cause I was worried about you. I hope you stick around FS and post some more, but I get that you're busy.

I'm also not at all sure what is up with the people who take FS so seriously that big post of yours made them put handkerchiefs over their mouths, but hey. It takes all kinds.

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm not one of your troll posse, but I admit I haven't found your negativity that charming in the past (or his, for that matter) but I'm really sorry he did that to you.

I was cheated on numerous times by a guy I was with for about six years, and I know it's not easy. You think about all the lies and the ways he hid his scumbag behavior (a baby was involved, or was, he talked the woman into an abortion) and you get really angry. All that hurt and bitterness bubbles to the surface, even if, minutes before, you were perfectly content. I personally can't talk to my ex, because I know it'd be too easy to slip and snap at him. Which you seem to do, apparently without realizing it. Letting everyone know all the piece of shit things he did might have sabotaged your chances of reconnecting with your friends, though. Letting your anger get the best of you can really turn around and bite you in the ass, I know.

Maybe one of the FSers who also frequent the stream could ask the anons there for a way to be contacted, so they can pass it along to you?

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[(Anonymous)]

I could kind of infer the bulk of the relationship drama from how you've both been since the breakup, and to be honest, it's not of great interest to me.

The only thing that has any bearing on how I feel about this particular issue is: What did you say, How did you say it, and what did you mean.

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[(Anonymous)]

I think it was the comment up top "I would suffer through the most heinous bastards for blahblah actor" Kind of seems like he was just looking for an excuse, considering they've both said shit like that for years.

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[(Anonymous)]

Much better and understandable/relatable instead of reading like an attempt at drama. Good luck at finding your anons!

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[(Anonymous)]

YAY! I saved the original so that the crazy can be kept forever.

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[(Anonymous)]

Posted above in the original thread, but this clears things up:

Glad to hear things are better for you. I remember reading about the fallout between you two a while back. I don't know anything about Shitstream...but it sucks that your ex is a mod of some sort there. :/ It sounds like he will always be biased against you because of your personal history together. It's hard to abandon good friends, but I would hate to be around an ex in that situation. It's a bitter feeling, having to leave your favorite hangouts or hobbies behind because of an ex, but that's honestly what I would have done. I hope you find a solution that works for you.