[ SECRET POST #3160 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3160 ⌋

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[diet_poison]

urghhhhhh. :( :(

I feel like in high school there's not even much you can do. Tell the authorities? Will they take it seriously? Depends on the people in question - it's a crapshoot. Can you even call the police? I feel like they'd tell you to take it to school authorities. And if you pick a fight, best-case scenario is you get suspended for fighting - worst-case is he wins the fight (likely for a teenage boy v. a teenage girl).

People like that make me so mad, and it's always written off as "cute" and not really threatening. But your safety and comfort should have been a higher priority to those in charge.

[habilelapin]

I did report him to the school, several times, but I basically got the "you're a pretty girl, you're going to get attention/he's harmless" BS, and the same thing from my parents. Several of my friends' parents took it a lot more seriously, thankfully.

About the only safety I really had was because I lived on base. The high school straddled a line between "base" and "county", and non-military kids weren't supposed to go out the base-side exit or be on the base. So after awhile, every time I saw an MP (military police who are pretty much everywhere with nothing to do) I would go up to the car and tell them he was a civilian kid and on base without a sponsor and making me feel unsafe. After about the third time his parents had to come get him from their station (he got a few verbal warnings first), that part stopped at least.

What was really scary was that I worked at the mall nearby after graduating to pay my school bills, and he found out. Every time he was home for breaks, he would show up. He didn't talk to me much, but he seemed to like making sure I knew he was there. At one point, he even convinced a coworker to give him my number, and I had to get him blocked.

[diet_poison]

Your parents too??

And he followed you AFTER HIGH SCHOOL????

ugh ugh.

[habilelapin]

My parents were like the school: "you're pretty/he's just awkward/you should expect this sort of thing/etc"

My one friend's mom (who was a single mom in the military), OTOH, forbid me to go home after school, and had her son and daughter (daughter was the same year as me, son was a year younger) walking me home and insisting that I was to go to their house and stay there after school instead of going home (where I was alone). And she told the neighbors (another friend's parents) that they needed to watch the house and if he came around, call the MPs. As a teenager, though he frightened me, I didn't quite understand her fear. As an adult, I know exactly what she was scared of.

And yeah. Not to the same extent, but he apparently kept asking people on FB about me (I didn't have a FB until I was 21, so this was a dead-end). I did report him to the military police, who took it seriously and put him on a "not allowed to enter the base" list, but the county police...basically acted the same as the school and my parents, i.e. "You're a pretty girl, it's a compliment"

[diet_poison]

Your friend's mom sounds awesome and I'm so glad she was looking out for you!!

...dammit police, we're paying your salaries with our taxes; be useful please!!!