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fandomsecrets2015-08-29 04:25 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-08-29 04:25 pm
[ SECRET POST #3160 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3160 ⌋
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I was once pursued by a RL Urkel. He was very intelligent, and very awkward. He became obsessed with me. From the get-go, I made clear I was uninterested, but he kept on. I tried to be nice, because everyone told me I should be flattered by his attentions. One day though, in the school hall, he tried to kiss me. I turned my head, and he kissed my cheek. He kept on after, no matter how many times I told him he had made me very uncomfortable and I was just not interested. He showed up at my club meetings (I belonged to the NHS, the Thespians, the Alliance, etc), to "walk me home". I ended up having to ask my boyfriend to leave his sports practices early (thankfully, his coaches understood the "I don't want my gf walking home alone" thing) to meet me after. The guy never respected my wishes, but when my boyfriend told him to fuck off, he would, as long as my boyfriend was around. No matter how many times I told this guy that I wasn't interested, and to stay away, if I was alone, he would show up and refuse to leave me alone.
Urkel reminds me of that guy a lot, and it pisses me off that you would even think his behavior was ever excusable. I spent most of my senior year terrified this guy was going to show up at my house, or in my neighborhood, or among my friends. Urkel isn't just "socially awkward". He is so far over the "creepy" line, he couldn't see it with the Hubble Telescope.
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(Anonymous) 2015-08-30 02:17 am (UTC)(link)i once had a guy who liked me tell me: "i think god gave me you"
i later rejected him and he proceeded to call me a bitch. what a turn-around!
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I feel like in high school there's not even much you can do. Tell the authorities? Will they take it seriously? Depends on the people in question - it's a crapshoot. Can you even call the police? I feel like they'd tell you to take it to school authorities. And if you pick a fight, best-case scenario is you get suspended for fighting - worst-case is he wins the fight (likely for a teenage boy v. a teenage girl).
People like that make me so mad, and it's always written off as "cute" and not really threatening. But your safety and comfort should have been a higher priority to those in charge.
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About the only safety I really had was because I lived on base. The high school straddled a line between "base" and "county", and non-military kids weren't supposed to go out the base-side exit or be on the base. So after awhile, every time I saw an MP (military police who are pretty much everywhere with nothing to do) I would go up to the car and tell them he was a civilian kid and on base without a sponsor and making me feel unsafe. After about the third time his parents had to come get him from their station (he got a few verbal warnings first), that part stopped at least.
What was really scary was that I worked at the mall nearby after graduating to pay my school bills, and he found out. Every time he was home for breaks, he would show up. He didn't talk to me much, but he seemed to like making sure I knew he was there. At one point, he even convinced a coworker to give him my number, and I had to get him blocked.
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And he followed you AFTER HIGH SCHOOL????
ugh ugh.
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My one friend's mom (who was a single mom in the military), OTOH, forbid me to go home after school, and had her son and daughter (daughter was the same year as me, son was a year younger) walking me home and insisting that I was to go to their house and stay there after school instead of going home (where I was alone). And she told the neighbors (another friend's parents) that they needed to watch the house and if he came around, call the MPs. As a teenager, though he frightened me, I didn't quite understand her fear. As an adult, I know exactly what she was scared of.
And yeah. Not to the same extent, but he apparently kept asking people on FB about me (I didn't have a FB until I was 21, so this was a dead-end). I did report him to the military police, who took it seriously and put him on a "not allowed to enter the base" list, but the county police...basically acted the same as the school and my parents, i.e. "You're a pretty girl, it's a compliment"
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...dammit police, we're paying your salaries with our taxes; be useful please!!!