[ SECRET POST #3189 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #3189 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.













Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 045 secrets from Secret Submission Post #455.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Third Wheel

[(Anonymous)]

This was my life in high school and university, except it happened to me twice with two good friends (both women, not a couple). Whenever the three of us would go out, the two of them would walk on ahead chatting while I trailed behind awkwardly. They both took an art class (I didn't) and they didn't think that I would feel excluded while they talked about it the entire time.

It happened again with two other friends, too. They were both into fashion and makeup (I wasn't) and used to walk on ahead chatting about it. Again, they didn't even notice that they were excluding me. It upset me because whenever we met separately, we would have the most epic conversations!

I tried following the conversation and commenting on what they were saying, but in both cases it was kind of viewed as an (unwanted?) interruption. I was upset (and hid it), of course, but I'm not sure how much of that was me being over-sensitive. I do think it's important to include someone if you've invited them along, but not everyone is good at "reading the air", I suppose.

I never found a way to deal with it, except to avoid meeting those friends in a group of 3. Nowadays, I don't see them so often (and never in a group, thankfully), so it's not too bad. If you're feeling like a third wheel and your attempts to get in on the conversation are failing, try to invite a fourth person along next time! Four wheels make a car, after all. :)