[ SECRET POST #3196 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3196 ⌋

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[Hannibal]


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03. [repeat, Black Mirror]


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[World of Warcraft, Mists of Pandaria]


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[Sailor Moon]


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[Silicon Valley]


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[Time Masters: Vanishing Point and Aladdin]


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[Floraverse]


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Comments

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, that's several levels of terrible, I'm sorry. Is your friend getting help for her eating disorder? It sounds like she really, really needs it. Either way, stealing food is unacceptable and it's only enabling her to pretend that she doesn't have a problem. The labeling is a good idea, but... that wasn't really the issue, was it. She wasn't ACCIDENTALLY eating food she thought was hers, because she knew damn well she wasn't buying "tempting" food, so there's no way that tempting food could be hers.

Your friend needs help.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

I floated the idea of seeing someone during our horribly awkward discussion, but she insisted she had it under control (health-wise) and I just don't feel comfortable pushing. But if it persists, we'll see... The idea behind labeling is I guess to literally put a name to the stuff so that it's no longer "random food lying around the common area" that could just disappear without being noticed.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Hopefully the labeling thing will help

I'm the same where I can't buy any any sweets/snacks or I completely lose control

Tried to buy two pints of ice cream today for the week and I ate them both an hour after I got home

If you can keep it in your room (such as candy) that might be easier.

But if she keeps doing it, know that you have every right to confront her about it. Her having a problem doesn't give her the right to steal from you.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this is mostly relevant to the food kept in the kitchen, especially the fridge we share. I'm big on leftovers and my mother likes to bring food when she visits. We'd have rodents on top of everything else if I kept this stuff in my bedroom.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

I understand not wanting to push this, but if she's taking food that isn't hers just so she can maintain plausible deniability about her food intake, that doesn't sound like "under control" to me. And if you're the only two people living in that house, it's not really a mystery where food left in the common area comes from. There's no such thing as the Junk Food Fairy, so if one person didn't buy it themselves, it clearly doesn't belong to them.

Your friend is making excuses because she wants to pretend she's not sick and she wants you to go along with it so she doesn't need to get help. It's a common thing, but it's not good for her.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

It's kind of like what an anon below said... the labels are meant to be a psychological trick. I can't explain it better myself but if she says it helps I'm willing to give it a shot. I know it's nothing more than a stopgap though. I'm pretty much dreading having to take on this responsibility and that's probably what's bothering me so much.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

Good luck and I hope it helps like the below anon said. I guess I'm just skeptical because... well, it's relying on a psychological trick to deal with a condition that's already rooted in psychological issues and the denial of reality.

Dreading it is a perfectly normal reaction. I wouldn't want to deal with this either.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

maybe she NEEDS some pushing

i mean, she's gotten to the point where she's stealing your food. that doesn't sound like she has stuff "under control", that sounds like the sort of behaviour an addict would do.

like any other mental illness, she needs help. give her an ultimatum.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

What would I say to her, though? I've got half the deposit sunk on this place and aside from this the living situation is ideal for me right now, there's no way I would move out. I don't even want to get the landlord involved because it would probably involve outing the ED.

Re: tw: eating disorder

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt - What are the possible consequences of outing her ED, though? Are we talking getting fired, or embarrassment? Because yes, it's embarrassing as hell, but the stigma is also the reason why people don't get the help they need.

I imagine you'll be monitoring the situation closely from now on, anyway. Keep an eye on your friend for ED behaviors, keep an eye on your food. If your food starts disappearing again, it's time to have a slightly firmer (but kind!) sit down with your friend. You gave her a chance and you backed off to let her handle it on her own. If she can't handle it on her own, it's time to start exerting more pressure to see a doctor/therapist who specializes in eating disorders.