[ SECRET POST #3196 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3196 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Hannibal]


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03. [repeat, Black Mirror]


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04.
[World of Warcraft, Mists of Pandaria]


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05.
[Sailor Moon]


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06.
[Silicon Valley]


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07.
[Time Masters: Vanishing Point and Aladdin]


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08.
[Floraverse]


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09.
[HTGAWM]













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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

some people do realize they love kids and want more, though it is just as possible for someone to have one and go, "I think this is it for me."

I don't know about OP, but I think part of what annoys me is that it's so rarely the latter in fanfic. It's set up as an option, but it's almost never that option that's chosen. I actually can't think of a single time when the characters went, "Nah, we're good with just one."

I feel the same about characters who decide not to have kids at all. It hardly ever happens that the characters make an active choice not to, and stick to that choice, and feel good about it.

The very worst, though, is "knocked up" stories, where it's really common to have the character consider having an abortion, but it's almost non-existent for them to actually get one.

The inadvertent message that ends up forming out of all these fics is basically that happy, loving couples always have the baby. And happy, loving couples always discover they want kids after all. And happy, loving couples almost always want more kids after they have the first one.

It's like getting flicked between the eyes: not a big deal at first, but after a couple hundred repetitions it starts to make one feel ragey.

[elaminator]

It's set up as an option, but it's almost never that option that's chosen.

And believe me, I do understand how you might get frustrated by the feeling that the choice is never explored, but I mean...it's fanfic, and people write what they want.

Again, I understand where you're coming from because I don't want kids, and rarely is that addressed in any way in media or fanfic that isn't, "This person didn't want kids, but they got pregnant and had the baby and things are great" or "They changed their mind when they got older and/or when they found the right partner." That definitely happens sometimes in real life and there is nothing shameful about it happening, but it is easy to feel that "this is all that is ever written".

I am all for more characters who decide not to have kids (or who decide to have only one kid), but I am also used to seeing the opposite. Sometimes it works for me, sometimes it doesn't, it depends on the specific scenario.