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Comments

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

I'm annnoyed at having to elaborately workaround something I feel like I shouldn't have to.

I have to be careful about not putting any kind of food wrappers in my personal trash can because my Dad has a habit of picking through my trash to find anything food-related and interrogate me about it because if I put it it in my trash can I MUST have eaten it in my room. It's not like I come home with a snack after a long day and dump the wrapper in my trashcan as I walk in (except yeah it is, I do it all the time).

Still it's annoying....and kinda creepy. Sadly in my house asking my parents not to do something isn't really an option because they'll argue that they are permitted- no entitled to do it. Because "my house".

When will people learn that just because you can justify being a dick to your housemates/family because you own the house doesn't mean you should.

But nope I gotta make a plan to be careful where I throw out certain things. This isn't Law and Order, Dad

Also my place of employment is doing some remodeling and the sound of thye power drills is just awful sometimes. Ugh.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[diet_poison]

Your dad picks through your trash? What the actual...?

(and why does he care what you eat??)

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

Sometimes yep. Usually its full of soda cans and stuff.

because it's an ironclad rule that I can't eat anything in my room or I'll completely ruin the carpet or make a mess. *shrug*

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[cenobitic_anchorite]

You're old enough to have a job and there's this thing called a carpet cleaner. Short of killing, curing, and eating your own meat over the bedroom carpet - or a really enthusiastic red wine party - the carpet will be fine. Dad needs to find his chill or maybe a therapist. I'm sorry he's being like that. That's not healthy for him.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

I think both of my parents need a therapist honestly. Especially when it comes to food and weight issues.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[(Anonymous)]

I think you should really sit down and try to have a rational conversation with your parents to remind them that you are an adult in your mid-twenties and that you are paying rent (unless you've stopped doing that?) so you should be able to eat what you want in your room. You are paying them for that space.

Unless you like spill things and leave it, and attract ants and stuff. In which case I can sort of see your dad's point (it's still creepy that he goes through your trash though, wtf)

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

I'd like to...but I think the only way we could ever really have an even talk is with some kind of third party help. because our relationship is kind of uneven, they respond to things they don't like with punishments or threats and label it as 'disrespect' or 'bad behavior'

(and considering that today me crying in public when I was talking to her because of a stressful day? yeah also 'bad behavior' I don't even)

I do still pay rent though. Doesn't make much difference form when I didn't pay rent IMO, but eh.

I don't though. Not really I mean there have been times were I possibly spread some goop on my hands to a wall or light switch. But.. Usually unless they find proof (like wrappers or something) they don't know. Hell I once hid a can of alcoholic beverage in one of my drawers and got rid of it with them none the wiser.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[(Anonymous)]

Do you go to a therapist or something? If you do you could ask your parents if they want to go to a session with you and have the therapist act as third party. There seems to be a lot of issues that you should at least try to resolve if you are planning on still living with your parents.

From what I remember you saying from previous threads, like with your parents not letting you learn how to drive and some money things and them punishing you by taking away your internet and stuff, they seem to have a lot of control issues when it comes to you. It really doesn't feel like a healthy environment for any of you, but for you least of all. Or at least not from the way I remember you writing things.

I really hope you manage to either get your own place or find some solutions that allows you to live on more equal grounds with your parents soon.

(I really feel I should add that I'm neither stalker anon nor spreadsheet anon, I'm just good at remembering random things about what people post .__. )

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

I did but with my insurance issues (upcoming changing insurance), it got to be too much.

I just try to work with what I can and save up money. Sometime we'll be moving somewhere else where I can possibly get away and reach some friends.

Right now occasional venting and validation of my feelings that the things they do aren't normal helps.

(Hey I understand. I tend to remember things a lot too.)

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[diet_poison]

oh my gosh. They are literally treating you like a child. like a ten-year-old.

you said above that it helps to validate that this is not normal. It's not. It's really, REALLY not. I do hope you are able to reach out to those friends soon!

(and if you lived near me I would totally teach you how to drive myself)

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

Thanks. I hope I get close to them soon. All of them also agree that my parents behavior alarms them.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[(Anonymous)]

your dad sounds like my mom. She actually picks up couch cushions and looks under them to see if they're dirty. And not just in her own house, either.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dani_phantasma]

"And not just in her own house, either."

Oh wow that's a whole nother level of controlling.