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⌈ Secret Post #3207 ⌋

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Re: being nice online

[sarillia]

I've mostly stopped worrying about it because I've spent so much time trying to find ways to help my own awkward friends get over their fear that they're going to say something wrong when I want some support and don't want them not replying to my messages because they don't know what to say and keep putting off replying and then it never happens and I'm even more depressed. My experience as someone who's had a lot of problems is that I don't have high standards for what I want to hear in terms of sympathy. I just want to know that there are people who care. So I've gotten to the point where I just try to be sincere when I'm the one offering sympathy and support and don't worry about how I'm going to look because I'd rather try to help and be thought of as weird or something than not say anything and have that person end up not getting any response because too many other people are feeling the same way.

A simple "I'm sorry you're going through that. I hope things get better soon" can work just fine. Some people put way too much pressure on themselves to say the perfect thing. There is no perfect thing. All you can do is try to be kind and understanding. I can see how people can be afraid advice can be seen as overbearing but I think most people are fine with someone saying "this is what helped me when I was dealing with something similar, maybe it could help you too". If you're afraid of coming on too strong but don't feel like you've said enough then you can ask if they want to talk about it and gauge how things seem from there.