[ SECRET POST #3209 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3209 ⌋

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Comments

Re: complaints/whining thread

[(Anonymous)]

"Awww, I saw you guys did X last weekend, that sounds fun. Let me know the next time you're going, I'd love to try that!"

It's the most you can do without sounding needy or horning in on a group activity. Do not, under any circumstances, send any passive aggressive messages about "I wished you'd invited me, too. :( :( :(" Even if you succeed at making them feel guilty for excluding you (whether it's accidental or not), people don't like to be guilt tripped. You'll alienate them further.

Are your friends obligated to only hang out with the entire group? It's normal for friends to occasionally split off into smaller groups for an event, and it could be you're taking this a little personally. Unless you have actual evidence that you were purposefully, maliciously excluded, it might be a little premature to freak out.

+1

[(Anonymous)]

yes this is good advice too.

don't internalize or personalize a slight if you don't actually know a slight was made. it snowballs, next thing you know you're vaguebooking about how no one likes you and then, surprise surprise, no one does like you for that very reason.

Re: +1

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This. We all know someone who interprets innocuous things as personal slights, then throws a hissy fit over how they've been wronged. Maybe you don't invite someone to the movies because you heard them say they didn't want to see it, or because superhero flicks aren't their thing. Maybe you thought they already had plans. Maybe it was spur of the moment. But then that person texts you with a big ranty whine about how horrible you are for excluding them and you think... well, I know who I don't want to hang out with next weekend.