[ SECRET POST #3215 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3215 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Disney's Descendants]


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04. [SPOILERS for Undertale]



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05. [SPOILERS for Ancillary Mercy]



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06. [SPOILERS for Great British Bake Off, series 6]



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07. [SPOILERS for Defiance]



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08. [SPOILERS for shepherd's crown]



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09. [WARNING for abuse]














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Comments

Re: Ask an opinion question

[(Anonymous)]

Spanking, first and for most, should *never* be a go-to punishment. I was spanked exactly once as a child, and only one swat, and I've *never* underestimated the dangers of live electrical wires again. I honestly don't think anything else would have kept me out of the breaker box and away from live wires as well as that did. It underscored *exactly* how terrified my Dad was, and he cuddled me close and wouldn't let go for a good while after.

As for saying it's bad? In general, yes. Absolutely. Especially as any corporal punishment is ripe for abuse, especially since it *is* usually done in the heat of the moment.

However, complete bans on physical chastisement seem shortsighted to me. Something like smacking a child's hand away is innapropriate if they're reaching for candy, but not so much if they're reaching for a hot pot lid. Mom actually used to smack her own hand to tell us not to do something, with the loud sound getting our attention and the look on her face saying the rest, especially with the association we had.

Time outs can be effective, but it depends on the child. Also, on the adult. We used to get sent to our rooms until Mom wasn't mad at us anymore, because if she let us out after a half hour she was more likely to get mad at us again, which was frustrating for all of us. I don't think this current 'one minute per year' is very effective, though.

I think the most effective thing is to make the consequence fit the crime. Hitting means you're not old enough to play with other children and are sent to your room. Not doing chores means you haven't earned your allowance, so you can't have it. Not eating dinner means it comes out of the fridge when you *are* hungry, and no desert or snacks until it's gone. Making a toothpaste mural or drawing on the walls means losing the whole afternoon to cleaning up the mess.

Consistency is the key, though. Always, ALWAYS follow through, and don't make wild threats that you have no intention of carrying out.

Also, consider severity. Not unloading the dishwasher < taking your sibling's toy without permission < hitting, so punishing all three the same is ridiculous.