[ SECRET POST #3219 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3219 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
[Suicide Squad]


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02.
[Dragonlance Legends]


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03.
[Takehiko Inoue's "Real"]


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04.
[Avatar the Last Airbender/Legend of Korra]


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05.
[Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis]


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06.
[The Twelve Kingdoms]


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07.
[Dramatical Murder]


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08.
[Hemlock Grove, Bill Skarsgard]


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09.
[Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D]


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10.
[Psycho]


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11.
[Outlander series, Dougal/Claire]










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Comments

long response is kinda long, sorry

[diet_poison]

Depends heavily on a number of factors, perhaps chief among them being whether they're still cognitively sound. If something like that came from my step-grandma, for instance (who has said stuff that's very right-wing but not that I recall openly racist or homophobic also despite how conservative she is she's always appeared to be okay with her oldest daughter having a long-term female partner) I would ignore it or brush it off because she has dementia that's steadily advancing and there's literally nothing good that could come out of that confrontation. She wouldn't change, she doesn't even really know what she's saying and I'd be an asshole.

It's also worth bearing in mind that people of that age no longer have a very big influence on culture and, to put it delicately, their opinions will soon become completely obsolete - not that I'm trying to celebrate people dying, but it is the truth, and for that reason, if their opinions aren't directly affecting anyone (for example if they say racist shit but only really ever talk to white people) it is honestly better in some cases to let it go for the sake of family peace. However, on the other hand, their words can influence others, including children/teens, so sometimes it's best to say something - try to do so gently ("you're a fucking moron" is probably a bad idea here, lol) and/or maybe try to make sure you're a positive influence on any children in question so they can see a better example being set.

If, on the other hand, they have a family member who is gay, disabled, of another race, or otherwise marginalized in a way they rail against, that person's feelings and comfort are of immediate importance, and Grandma's comfort in saying bigoted things don't win out over that, old and matriarchal though she may be, IMO. This is especially true if what she's saying is really overt and hostile and she knows better. You don't have to tolerate shitty behavior towards others.