[ SECRET POST #3222 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3222 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[From Dusk Till Dawn: The Series]


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[Sean Bean/Accused]


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[Bones/Sleepy Hollow]


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Comments

[lady_dragoon]

Yes. No matter how much they try and convince you that you're responsible for their welfare, which is what the one I dealt with did to me. And trust me, someone with untreated/unmanaged BPD will do this constantly.

OP, don't blame yourself. I know it's easier said than done but what happened was NOT your fault.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm the anon under you (that sounds vaguely dirty, but English is not my first language), but yes. I know she can't help herself but my friend keeps repeating how she's a horrible person who manipulates everyone, but in a tone that clearly wants people to tell her that she isn't - which she also KNOWS and mentions in the tags. It's a big circle.

She also constantly repeats how all these neurotypical doctors are not trying to understand BPD people and keep vilifying/making them seem like bad people in their official papers (she's almost obsessed with looking up illnesses/disorders she might have).
Idk, is this true?

[lady_dragoon]

...This sounds disturbingly familiar. I kid you not, this is exactly what my former friend did. Not so much with the neurotypical doctors ranting, but she's definitely adverse to therapy and is constantly self-diagnosing.

What fandoms is the one you know in? Because now I'm curious if we're talking about the same person (and if we are, then trust me it's not your fault and she really is just a terrible human being).

[(Anonymous)]

Well, manipulating other people for sympathy is what BPDs do. First they'll love you and gush about how you're their BFF, the next minute they'll be screaming about how terrible you are to them. It's textbook. That's why even if you choose to indulge your friend by reassuring her that she's a good person, it will never, ever be enough. She needs more help than you or any other person who isn't a trained professional can provide, so don't beat yourself up over it. If your friend had a serious heart defect, you wouldn't beat yourself up over not being to operate on them personally... it's the same thing.

"She also constantly repeats how all these neurotypical doctors are not trying to understand BPD people and keep vilifying/making them seem like bad people in their official papers..."

Unlikely. First, has she actually been to see any doctors for her BPD? My guess is no, and this complaint is her justification for why she's not seeking help. People with BPD have a tough time grasping that they need help in the first place because in their mind it's everyone else's fault, not theirs.

It's sad, but you're better off, OP. BPDs tend to emotionally drain their friends and family, it's part of their mental health issues. Then when friends and family leave or distance themselves, it feeds right back into a BPDs fears about abandonment, which only makes them act out more, which alienates even more people, etc. etc.

[lady_dragoon]

I really wish I'd known more about BPD before getting involved with the person I knew. Because it was a 2-year national disaster area of a friendship that I'm still not entirely over.