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fandomsecrets2015-10-30 07:13 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #3222 ⌋
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Re: Self-diagnosing
(Anonymous) 2015-10-31 08:15 am (UTC)(link)I remember the times - it started back on LJ - when self-diagnosis was really frowned upon, because it gave the "real" autistic people a bad reputation, because random assholes (called "assburgers" back then) would self-diagnose and then use that to justify their overall assholery.
I was rather neurotic about social justice back then (I tend to be literal-minded, and I had a low self-esteem for a while, so I often got the feeling that I would have to perfectly measure up to all the standards of social justice in order to not be worthless), and I remember freaking out a lot about possibly getting my diagnosis, because in order to get the it, I would first have to assume that I might have Aspergers *before* getting the diagnosis, and that would be Problematic.
Now the pendulum seems to have swung the other way, and self-diagnosis is suddenly encouraged where it used to be bad. I honestly just think people should stop being such extremists about it either way. Also that this us-versus-them mentality some of the more extreme people are constructing between themselves and "Allistic" people is a bit harmful, and might drive people into adopting self-diagnosed labels that might not even be correct, just so they wouldn't have to be in the same class as the "Allistic oppressors".
Also I *am* aware of the harmful things that have been done and sometimes keep being done to Autistic people, and of course I am constantly surrounded by the fact that since the majority of people are assumed neurotypical, the society is optimised to neurotypicality, making my life a bit more complicated, in many ways, than the life of, say, a neurotypical person with no mental illnesses would be, if they had the same basic life-situation as myself.
But I don't think it's constructive in any way to keep assuming that I'm a misutreated hero surrounded by vicious neurotypicals, all out to get me. It's more like... people tend to assume, to an extent, that their experience is at least somewhat universal. When it's not, this causes misunderstandings, because people don't stop to compare notes to figure out that the gesture one intended as benign was perceived by the other as negative just because they happen to have different core ways of experiencing the world.