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For teachers of high school- elementary school.

What are the most obnoxious types of parents you have to deal with? The only type I can think of is the parent who thinks their kid can do no wrong.

I'm not a teacher myself, but you might want to check out some AskReddit threads on this as it comes up there sometimes. Here's a couple of threads (I've just barely skimmed through the top comments of these though):

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1lyb70/teachers_of_reddit_what_was_the_absolute_worst/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2dq1lj/teacherscounsellors_of_reddit_whats_the_worst/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2s9gp2/teachers_of_reddit_who_was_the_worst_parent_youve/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2ovzvn/teachers_of_reddit_what_was_the_strangest/

Parents who get really upset about fees just as if they weren't told about them when they first enrolled their kid (I worked in a private school).

Parents who insist on babying their kid no matter how old they get.

Parents who try to take control over school events by micro-managing everything (like insisting certain equipment be used, trying to force teachers to accept like guest performances even though they would be inappropriate).

Parents who talk trash about staff members they dislike to other staff members.

More annoying/depressing than obnoxious, but there was a parent who was in denial about her son having some developmental disorder (I think it was autism, but either way it was really serious. He couldn't express himself and only talked by repeating other people's words, he couldn't do most tasks, and would throw temper tantrums - he's currently eleven), which was really frustrating because we're not trained experts in that kind of thing and it was hard to help him at all.

You've mentioned it yourself, but parents who think their kid can do no wrong are absolutely the worst. There was this one kid who would be really condescending and talk down to other kids and when we mentioned it to his mother, she actually started making condescending comments about those other kids too.

"You've mentioned it yourself, but parents who think their kid can do no wrong are absolutely the worst. There was this one kid who would be really condescending and talk down to other kids and when we mentioned it to his mother, she actually started making condescending comments about those other kids too."

Well now we know where he gets it.

"More annoying/depressing than obnoxious, but there was a parent who was in denial about her son having some developmental disorder (I think it was autism, but either way it was really serious. He couldn't express himself and only talked by repeating other people's words, he couldn't do most tasks, and would throw temper tantrums - he's currently eleven), which was really frustrating because we're not trained experts in that kind of thing and it was hard to help him at all."

This annoys me so much. Some of the most successful autistic people I've met have had supportive parents who seemed to accept their child's condition, whereas the types who have parents who refuse to accept it always seem more severe.

The worst thing you can do for autism is be in denial or be fixated on "fixing" your child as if they are broken. If they get the right support and acceptance they can have great lives.

>"More annoying/depressing than obnoxious, but there was a parent who was in denial about her son having some developmental disorder (I think it was autism, but either way it was really serious. He couldn't express himself and only talked by repeating other people's words, he couldn't do most tasks, and would throw temper tantrums - he's currently eleven), which was really frustrating because we're not trained experts in that kind of thing and it was hard to help him at all."

:( How did it end? Did he get any help at all?

I'm not working there currently, but when I left, we still hadn't got through to his mother and we couldn't give him help independently because you can't bring a student to a doctor without his parents' permission unless it's an emergency. His class teacher was asking for advice from a professional and trying to help him in that way, but his case is so serious, it'd probably take a lot of individual focus on him to help him, which teachers can't really afford to do while handling his other classmates as well :(

Oh. I hope the parent sees reason in the end. Denial is a terrible, terrible thing.

But at least his teachers do something to try and help him and they're aware of the problem. I think that in many schools, a kid like that would just get bullied instead.

Oh yeah, fortunately his classmates are mostly really sweet kids and they're happy to take care of him, helping him with his work and making sure he doesn't get lost or left alone during breaks. His classmates are so nice, it hadn't occurred to me before that he might get bullied in different circumstances, I'm glad he can somewhat depend on them at least.

When I was teaching the most obnoxious parents I had to deal with were parents who were convinced that their child's performance reflected their own parenting skills and wouldn't allow them to do their work themselves.

These were the kinds of parents who couldn't understand that the fact that they had done all of their kid's homework didn't mean I would be giving their kid an A grade, because their classroom performance just didn't match up.

This was rare, mind you, but every time it happened I was tempted to lower the next letter grade a notch just out of spite. I never did, but god damn you annoying helicopter parents. Just let your kid do it themselves!

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