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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-11-09 06:55 pm

[ SECRET POST #3232 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3232 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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(Beyoncé)


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[Spider-Gwen/Marvel]


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[Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart]


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[Monogatari]


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[Legend of Heroes: Trails in the Sky FC]


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[Doctor Who]


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[Dragon Ball Z]








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Re: To people who are close to my girlfriend

[personal profile] forgottenjester 2015-11-10 03:14 am (UTC)(link)
The part where he said that he's not ready yet but does want to marry his gf down the line. Like, he's not ready right now, doesn't know when he will be, and feels pressure because everyone is getting married right now? That's... stressful. He doesn't know the fine details of his "someday future" plans.

To me that reads confusion and stressed.

And like, even if what you say is true and that's what he wants then he should still be open about it with his gf. Communication is still the solution. I mean, by letting her know all his thoughts and feelings on the matter she can share her own and they can come to a mutual understanding to either continue the relationship or not.

I mean, isn't that how responsible and good relationships are supposed to work? (And I don't say this in a mean way. I don't do relationships so I'm honestly a bit confused now myself.)

Re: To people who are close to my girlfriend

(Anonymous) 2015-11-10 03:22 am (UTC)(link)
OK, that's one way to read it. I just got the vibe that he doesn't want to do a lot of thinking about his "someday future" plans because that's difficult, and he doesn't want to commit right now because commitment is difficult, and he wants everything made easy for him. And you're right, he definitely ought to have that talk with his girlfriend, because communication is important, but apparently instead of doing that, he's just resenting mutual friends who are taking the big step of getting married. Because communication is also difficult, and it's not risk-free, because the girlfriend might just decide that she can't wait indefinitely for him to get his shit together.
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Re: To people who are close to my girlfriend

[personal profile] forgottenjester 2015-11-10 03:35 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, that's possible too. I guess I just gave him the benefit of a doubt. Whatevs, either of us could be right.

Ahaha, true but no one said his first reaction was the smartest. Hopefully- maybe- with this thread he better process his own emotions and can turn the energy he has from being frustrated towards being communicative with his girlfriend.

Or maybe I'll eat more m&ms. I dunno.

Re: To people who are close to my girlfriend

(Anonymous) 2015-11-10 07:49 am (UTC)(link)
M&Ms are also a good idea.