[ SECRET POST #3239 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3239 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Blake Shelton and Gwen Stefani]


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[Law & Order SVU/OZ]


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04.
[Unforgotten, The Fall]


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05.
[Gamer's Guide to Pretty Much Everything]


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06.
[Markiplier]


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07.
[Law & Order SVU (John Munch)]


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08.
[Kaiji]








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Comments

Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

I came out to one of my suitemates as gay, but I didn't come out to any of the others. I told her that I didn't really want people to know yet, and then the other day she starts asking me about my sex life in front of my other suitemates.

It made me so uncomfortable that I wanted to cry. The idea of telling people is still really scary to me because I'm friends with people who are moderately homophobic, and I'm not comfortable with telling all my suitemates yet.

I managed to evade her questions, but I wish she would be more respectful of me.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

That sucks anon. It seems too many people don't get the concept of that people might not out of the closet to everyone and it's not their information to share. Maybe try talking sternly to her about it? I dunno.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry. That is... terrible, especially as you said you didn't want people to know.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

Well since she's such an asshole and a cunt, you might as well tell her to get fucked.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

That sucks, nonny. Hate to say it, but it sounds like you might have come out to the wrong person. She may be your suitemate but she doesn't sound like much of a friend... or a person who respects your boundaries.

If I were you I'd refrain from telling her anything else she could potentially use for ammo/personal entertainment... and if she pulls that shit again, tell her to knock it off, because setting you up to spill your secret *when you've specifically told her you aren't yet ready to spill your secret* is a shitty thing to do.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[kallanda_lee]

That's really inappropriate. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

You've got to tell her that was not cool. That you trusted her with something and she let you down.

If she does it again then she's a real asshole and I don't have any advice on how to handle that.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

A few things:

1) Remind her that you don't want this to be publicly known yet, so please no public discussion about your sex life and frankly, even when you're out to everyone you may not be comfortable talking about your sex life.

2) If it's really important, do not entrust people with a big secret and THEN tell them it's confidential. Say you have something you'd like to tell them, but you want them to keep it to themselves and then specifically ask if they can do that.

3) Sometimes people don't respect boundaries and confidences if there are no repercussions to them violating a trust or a boundary. Let her know you didn't appreciate that. You don't have to be mean about it, but you do have to be firm about your expectations for her silence.

But frankly, unless your suitemate is a giant airhead, this wasn't an accident. It's a sign you've misplaced your trust in this person. To be honest even if they ARE just a giant airhead, they can't be trusted because they're unreliable.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

Private conversation: "Hey [Suitemate], you know how the other day I told you I was gay, but that I wasn't ready to come out to everyone yet? That includes our other suitemates. I was pretty surprised that you brought up the topic of my sex life in front of them and that's something I really don't want to talk about, okay?"

How your suitemate reacts will be telling. If it's anything but profuse, sincere apologies, you'll know your suitemate is a little shit. But in general, what happened is a good indication that they aren't trustworthy. Whether or not it was an accidental slip up or a purposeful jab, they aren't someone who is capable of handling your secrets. Don't tell them any in the future.

Re: Sorry, I just need to rant.

[(Anonymous)]

Why are you "friends" with homophobes??????