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fandomsecrets2015-12-11 06:13 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-12-11 06:13 pm
[ SECRET POST #3264 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3264 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Folgers Coffee Commercial]
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08. http://i.imgur.com/DKoxG0z.jpg
[linked for porn; anime character + random dick]
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09. [SPOILERS for London Spy]
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10. [SPOILERS for Fargo]
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11. [SPOILERS for Borderlands 2]
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12. [WARNING for rape]
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13. [WARNING for incest]
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14. [WARNING for suicide]
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15. [WARNING for abuse]
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16. [WARNING for rape]
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17. [WARNING for rape]
http://i.imgur.com/nxf1nRw.jpg
[nudity, porn star James Deen]
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18. [WARNING for rape]
[The Tempest]
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19. [WARNING for noncon/rape]
[Hannibal]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #466.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: THIS THREAD IS SO CONFUSING
See, if a guy is telling me he's a dom... then he's either pretty likely going to be part of that lifestyle or it's something really important to him! Otherwise, how do I know?
If a guy confides this on like the third date or something, and isn't making a big deal of it, that's different. There's a difference between "I am a Dom!" and "I am calling this being a dom because I don't have another word for it, but clearly I've been interacting with you as a normal dude too."
I have certain kinky things I'm into. I am never in a million years telling the vast majority of my friends. I'm a bit more open about it here because people don't know my name or face. If I tell my friend "Hey, Sarah, I'm really into ____!" I must be really, really, really fucking into _____.
Re: THIS THREAD IS SO CONFUSING
It seems there are a few subsets of people. I will say I'm a thing without being into that thing pretty frequently, just because it denotes a casual hobby or interest.
So I could theoretically say, "I'm a polyamourous bisexual man!" and still have never once set foot at a Pride event or similar (activism/protests not included) because I don't really tie that into my identity. I don't feel strongly about it.
So "het male dom" nice guy is probably in my boat, where he's just using that to categorize himself. It's not really a personal identity, it just describes a thing he finds sexually arousing sometimes.
Does that make sense?
Re: THIS THREAD IS SO CONFUSING
Okay, see: this is a different thing. Bisexuality is a sexual orientation. Polyamory is how you engage in relationships--or an orientation. Either way.
"Dom" is neither of these things. It's a bondage-related sexual role.