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Do you find that there are any similarities between characters you're attracted to in shows and media?

Does it match who you're attracted to IRL?

In RL I like shy, retiring guys who work collaboratively with others. In fiction I like mavericks and bastards. I wish more guys would stop mixing up what I want in fiction with what I want from them in reality.

Men are really bad at that sort of critical thinking.

Fuck off, radfem anon. This isn't your soapbox

It ain't TERFing to say that men whine when women want to read about bad boys but get upset when they personally try to smack women around. Generally speaking, men do do that.

Re: Your Fictional Type

kallanda_lee - 2015-12-13 22:29 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Your Fictional Type

(Anonymous) - 2015-12-13 22:41 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Your Fictional Type

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Re: Your Fictional Type

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Re: Your Fictional Type

(Anonymous) - 2015-12-14 01:35 (UTC) - Expand

I don't know if I would call it the same kind of attraction

In media, the characters I find attractive are the ones who I think are interesting whose stories I want to follow and whose heads I want to get in. I could watch a character be a badass for an hour and enthuse about how badass they are, but I imagine doing that in real life to someone would be pretty boring

In real life, the people I like, I want to be part of their stories and have their stories be part of mine, and the bit about following their plot and seeing their story because they're interesting doesn't apply

Not really and not really. I mean, some very broad similarities, and there's stuff I'm definitely not interested in, and those apply across the board, but there are some personality types among my fandom crushes that I'd NOPE away from IRL.

My fictional types tend to be missing limbs more often than the average population (my r/l romantic interests...haha.

Other than that, there are obviously physical similarities. I tend to go for a certain facial structures, for example.

I like a certain dorkiness level.

I also tend to go for people that are essentially good and/or try to better themselves in some way. Especially the latter might actually be a 100% occurrence in both fictional and real life.

Another strange correlation,that I can't quite explain, is there's also a high occurrence of "left home town/country/family early" in both r/l and fiction, but that might because it's such a popular trope.

Silent, stoic type with dark hair and dark eyes in both RL and in media.

For women, absolutely. I like badass dominant women in media, and I like badass dominant women irl.

I like ladyboys in fiction, and in RL too it turns out.

Aw ladyboy anon, I missed you!

I've been around. My first ladyboy relationship didn't last though. I'm on my second one right now, and it is going a lot better. I feel guilty that the first person I dated I was so unrealistic about, but I'm making so many fewer mistakes with my current love.

Re: Your Fictional Type

kallanda_lee - 2015-12-13 23:11 (UTC) - Expand

In real life, I'm more attracted to women than to men.

In fiction, most my fandom crushes are men. Unless the show has mostly female characters.

My fictional type is brave and honorable knights. I have no idea why.

My real-life type tends towards people who seem unattainable. The less likely it is that I could ever be in a position to ask them out on a date, the more they get stuck in my head. I also seem to be drawn to people who're striking in a way I rarely see, even if that's not conventionally attractive.

My fictional type varies a lot tbh, like I'm usually more into the villains or snarky heroes but there's also some genuinely good characters that I'm attracted to as well and looks-wise they vary a lot with hair-colour and build.

Irl my type is basically brunette's with a sarcastic sense of humour.

Strategic types, natural leaders, characters that suffer and keep going. I can also like mean and angry, but not psychotic. I pretty much have the same standards for what I'm attracted to in both male and female characters.

And none of this relate to what I like in real life.

In fictional stuff: I am most consistently dark-haired serious women who are gruff and responsible and driven and badass and no-nonsense and intense

in real life, it's a lot more varied

Physically I have more of a range with RL people than fictional people, but there are similarities in terms of what attracts me.

Personality wise, though, I'm most often into fictional villains or sometimes superheroes, and I'm not into bad boys in real life or into military members/cops/firemen which I guess would be the closest equivalent to superheroes.

I am generally attracted to characters and people who are positive and more optimistic and enjoy what they do, though. that is a similarity.

Edited 2015-12-14 00:22 (UTC)

Older, handsome men. The kind, sweet type. The cute intellectual. I'm kind of all over the place with my preferences.

Busty. Sociopathic. Super Violent. Red headed. Protective. Hm, I've just described Alice Morgan... I think I'm ok with that.

I usually end up getting fiction crushes on asshole characters, you know the kind you'd want to punch in the face IRL. Either that, or straight up villains, the kind you REALLY don't want to take home to mother.

In reality, I like people who can keep up with my sarcasm and snark, while having the ability to understand that the bullshit that my brain decides to throw around on a daily basis isn't always my fault.

Mostly the tall, dark(-haired) and handsome broody types of hero.

I was thinking about this recently - the two characters who I keep circling back to, and have epic fic ideas about, are both pilots who use snarky, sarcastic humor to keep everyone at a distance, and (at least in my headcanon) end up fixating on the most unavailable women possible. (Joker and Shepard from Mass Effect, and Atton and the Exile from KOTOR2.) More generally, there's something about the character traits that tend to go with piloting skill - Wash (Firefly), Han Solo, Corran Horn (Star Wars EU)...

I'd like to think that I know better than to chase someone who's got Atton's level of psychological issues. I do tend to like people who are quick-witted and sharp enough to keep up with my mental pogo-stick of thought, though.

yes and yes. I like sweet, overly-nice characters which make for good people irl too. once I reached like, 25 years old I couldn't remotely get into the villian characters anymore. (not that I was ever really into it...)

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