[ SECRET POST #3272 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3272 ⌋

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Re: Marriage question

[(Anonymous)]

Full disclosure, I'm not hitched, never have been, haven't even had a relationship longer than 3 months and even then, not in at least three years.

First of all, congratulations on your engagement, OP. That's awesome.

With all of that out of the way, I think what you're feeling sounds perfectly natural & healthy. Weddings are exciting and fun, but you genuinely love him, and that's important. I think a lot of people get hung up on your wedding day being the most important day of their lives that they forget about the day to day stuff & all of the work that goes into keeping a relationship in mind. At least from this post, it sounds like y'all have a solid relationship and that while the wedding is going to be a blast, it's not going to be the height of the relationship itself. And that's honestly the way I think it should be, at least.

It's okay to be most excited about the practical things. That doesn't mean you're defective. Feelings are subjective.

Honestly, one of the reasons I chose to respond despite not having the qualifications you're looking for is because the way you're describing your feelings regarding the engagement remind me of how I feel about my birthday every year. When I was a kid, my birthday was the best, one of my favorite days of the year. Now that I'm older, I still love my birthday just as much and get really excited, but it's more internal and I don't like to shout it from the rooftops and share it with everybody. Additionally, birthdays feel like just another day and there's always a chance I'll forget it's my birthday upon waking up until I look at a calendar or get a text from a friend.

TL;DR: I think your feelings are natural and you're not weird for having them. Congrats on the engagement & good luck with the marriage.