[ SECRET POST #3290 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3290 ⌋

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Comments

Re: advice?

[(Anonymous)]

Don't try to explain yourself or reason with her. As you've seen, it doesn't really work and you haven't been able to make her understand your situation. Be gentle, but VERY firm that you dating life is not going to be a topic of discussion, period. If she tries to bring it up, be explicit and say, "Grandma, and I love you but this topic makes me really unhappy and I want to enjoy the time I spend with you so I don't want to talk about it" and then change the subject. If she persists, it's "Grandma, I have to go. Love you, talk to you later!"

Sometimes you have to draw hard boundaries even with people you love and who love you back. Yes, it will be awkward as hell for a while. Let it be awkward. It's not you making the situation awkward, it's your grandma, for refusing to drop a subject that makes you feel miserable. Just be consistent about enforcing your boundaries and make an effort to have conversations with her that are about things both of you will enjoy. That way, good behavior (i.e. not talking about the dating thing) gets rewarded and bad behavior doesn't.